
you have to want to change and believe you can change before change can happen. therapy can give you every tool in the world but none of them matter until you decide you actually want to use them and believe they can work for you. nobody can make that choice for you and nobody can force your mind to think a certain way. they can guide you in the right direction but they cant carry you to your destination.
you dont have to believe you can change today. you just have to be open to the possibility that you might be wrong about yourself. if your mind has been telling you the same thing since you were a kid then its not surprising it feels impossible. but feelings arent always facts. and that’s where therapy could be helpful it’s a chance to get outside of your head and take an outside perspective on your own situation.