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Confessions 22h
I hate that people expect you to give reasons as to why you don’t want something. Whether it’s kids, a relationship, to date a specific person why do I need to explain myself to make it valid? All that matters is I don’t want to do it that’s it
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Anonymous 22h

Because there is a reason. If you look at history you can see how peoples “not wanting to do something” had reasons that were inherently racist, classist, bigoted or something negative. It’s almost never a “I just don’t want to” . It’s not always something insidious either, but I think it’s fair for the human mind to be curious

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Anonymous replying to -> beestboy 22h

I guess people can be curious but I don’t like it when they approach it in a negative way. Like “you need a reason to not want kids” no I don’t simply not wanting them is fine why would anyone want someone to bring a child into the world if they don’t want them yk? But if they’re just simply curious like “oh whys that?” I don’t see a problem with it

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 22h

Ya I totally get you. I think it’s valid to explain yourself as it’s apart of self-advocacy, but I also understand the disdain towards people with ill will towards whatever u choose

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 22h

like my friends got mad at me that I wouldn’t give this guy a chance when he asked me out cause he was physically my type and nice but I just got out of a relationship and I’m not ready and they were acting like it doesn’t matter like what??

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 22h

Did you say that to them like yea I’m fresh out I’m jus tryna chill and ur friend still was weird about it? That’s annoying lol

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Anonymous replying to -> beestboy 21h

My friends think in order to get over my ex I need to get under someone else and I just don’t operate that way and they think I’m purposefully making myself miserable. Yall I want to be single on purpose I don’t wanna be told what to do I was in a 6 year relationship we broke up a week ago let me chill for a sec for gods sake 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 21h

Nah that’s crazy. Expecting u to get up under somebody a week after 6 years is crazyyyyyy. Good luck healing fam

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Anonymous replying to -> beestboy 21h

right that’s what I said! Meanwhile they know I don’t like to sleep with someone unless I’m attached and they deadass are pissed at me and I’m so confused?? But thank you!!

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