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Get married straight out of highchool is weird you can’t change my mind idc 💀

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Anonymous 2w

i almost married my highschool sweetheart (i called off our engagement, we were together for 5yrs and lived w each other for 3) and i thank up above everyday for showing me the light bc what was i thinking

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Anonymous 2w

I didn’t even have a relationship in high school 😭

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Anonymous 2w

most of those are going to be failed relationships, your tastes and wants change so drastically in the coming years after high school and your hormones are raging right after high school that most of those things you wanted you’ll probably regret them after, plus your frontal lobe only fully develops i think at like 25 so who you are when you’re 18 is usually not the person you will be at 25

Anonymous 2w

i know at least 4 couples who got engaged within 6 months of graduation. my ex being one of them to someone two and a half years younger than him 💀

Anonymous 2w

I feel this. Or getting engaged/married after only being together for a year. If I got engaged/ married one year into my relationships I would have been divorced twice already and I’m 22 😐

Anonymous 2w

Out of HIGH SCHOOL?!?!?

Anonymous 2w

The fastest way to ruin a relationship is by moving in together.

Anonymous 2w

I’m not condoning the choices I made for the specific situation I was in but I just wanna say it’s possible but VERY RARE to have a successful marriage with a high school sweetheart. Sincerely someone who got married at 17 and has been married for almost 10 years 🫶 (he was in the military) (I have 2 degrees so I’m not a trad wife)

Anonymous 2w

Frr almost everyone I graduated with is either engaged married or married and pregnant or preganant

Anonymous 2w

No seriously. Like… wow I wonder why the divorce rate is so high it’s almost like people are getting married before they can even legally drink alcohol. It’s almost like people are so focused on “true love” they forget how humans develop and change.

Anonymous 2w

I know someone who got married at 19. They are now 26, with two kids, an alcoholic, wants a divorce and has cheated on her husband numerous times. People should not get married until their frontal lobes develop

Anonymous 2w

My marriage going great idk

Anonymous 2w

I’m marrying my high school sweetheart… after I graduate college bc I’m not an idiot

Anonymous 2w

dude ik a girl who got pregnant 2 months into her relationship at 18 y/o her baby daddy talks mad shit on her and tried to cheat on her (also he’s a horrible racist and sexist) and i told her and she goes “he is my partner and i have to stick by him” like girl go to the clinic!!!

Anonymous 2w

One of my close friends got married within 2 months and moved to Florida. 😂

Anonymous 2w

MARRIED OUT OF HIGH SCHOOL? At the ripe age of 18???

Anonymous 2w

I’ll def marry my high school sweetheart and if I didn’t go to college out of state we’d probably get married at 20 and 21 but I am out of state so we’ll get married after college. Only reasoning for after high school is if you’re born in the 1930s or some crazy abusive home life

Anonymous 2w

I know a girl that got married in September while she was 19(he was too) and they have a kid now

Anonymous 2w

It’s not

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Anonymous 2w

99% of people will never know the love and peace that comes from early marriages. Especially sex after marriage. So because you will never experience that, it’s not hard to believe you could never understand or have your mind changed. But just know that there’s many good reasons why you should do this. The more people you are with, the harder it will be to understand because you are not completely whole in any relationship you have. Not here to argue, just my two cents.

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Anonymous 2w

Whoops 😬 guess I didn’t get the memo lol. There’s also a 22 year age gap 🫠

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Anonymous

#1 2w

I know 3 people who got engaged at graduation and pregnant 3 months after

Anonymous

OP 2w

Holy fuck 😭

Anonymous

#4 2w

and one of them is already expecting a baby 😭

Anonymous

#4 2w

Dude there was this couple who PLANNED a baby my sophomore year of hs it’s so odd 😭

Anonymous

#5 2w

100% agree that’s completely why I said this aswell!! I’ve had some people argue with me in DMs but like it’s just too young

Anonymous

OP 2w

that's wild 😃

Anonymous

OP 2w

i’m not saying it’s impossible, because like religion can hold a person to be a certain way for a long time but most of the time they will both change as people and the relationship will dwindle out or if there’s a child in the mix then that how you can get a “broken home” in a sense, think about how many people had kids when they were 18 and either just abandon the kid or just don’t really speak to them because they turned out to be different people later on

Anonymous

#5 2w

i also have a lot of angry people dm’ing me telling me i’m wrong and don’t know what i’m talking about, i think human psychology speaks for itself, when you’re young you don’t think all the way clearly and think you’ll be this person forever but you won’t and you usually only level out yourself at like 25

Anonymous

#5 2w

There’s no reason people need to be disagreeing having that level of relationship at a young age is not the best thing for you

Anonymous

OP 2w

especially not in that stage of life like you’re either going into a trade or you’re going to school, how will your relationship handle a kid and then losing your physical intimacy when you don’t have time? you’ll just both learn to resent each other

Anonymous

#9 2w

Good for you!! I don’t think it’s impossible for people to have successful marriages but people shouldn’t be getting married as teenagers

Anonymous

OP 2w

Agreed but i feel like it's more of a mature thing instead of age

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Anonymous

#8 2w

Why does that sound like me 💀 😂

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Anonymous

#17 2w

also my ex is engaged to someone who is CURRENTLY in highschool 😭

Anonymous

#16 2w

That’s really the fastest way to TEST a relationship, if yall can’t cohabitate you shouldn’t marry

Anonymous

#1 2w

I know two girls with different baby daddies, one is on baby no 3 with bbdy no 3

Anonymous

#19 2w

But happy for everyone.

Anonymous

#14 2w

You married a 40 year old at 18? I feel so sorry for you I hope you heal from that experience

Anonymous

OP 2w

I did. Married 11 years this year 🤷‍♀️ just had a baby too

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Anonymous

#14 2w

So what’s the relationship like? How’d yall meet?

Anonymous

#18 2w

It’s great. We have always had a good relationship. We met while I was on a birthday trip with my friends.

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Anonymous

#14 2w

This is coming from genuine curiosity but do you not see any issue coming from the age cap at the age you were at? Like with your baby are you going to be okay with them dating an almost 50 year old once the reach 18?

Anonymous

OP 2w

I see zero issue of them being with who they want to be with once they’re of legal age.

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Anonymous

OP 2w

I’ve been happier in this marriage than I ever was with someone my own age. Treated better too. To each their own but just because it isn’t for you doesn’t mean it won’t work for someone else ❤️❤️

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Anonymous

#14 2w

so you are 29 and he’s 51?

Anonymous

#5 2w

Yes

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Anonymous

#7 2w

Yikes

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Anonymous

#14 2w

I am at a loss for words, I mean, at least you’re happy but I find it weird when people who are 30 go after someone that’s 18 and you went 10 years above that, how do your parents feel about this?

Anonymous

#5 2w

My mom had passed by the time I met him but my dad thought a lot of him. Technically I perused him lol

Anonymous

#14 2w

That’s fantastic that you are happy but please do not encourage this for your child it is not normal for a 40 year old to be attracted to a teenager

Anonymous

#17 2w

same w my ex

Anonymous

OP 2w

What my kid does after they’re 18 is absolutely their choice.

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Anonymous

#14 2w

legally yes but you can provide guidance against grooming tho!!

Anonymous

OP 2w

Please look the definition of grooming up before throwing it out there. That’s where a lot of misconception comes from when someone dates with a gap

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Anonymous

#14 2w

there is nothing normal about a fifty year old pursuing a freshly legal adult...

Anonymous

#4 2w

I perused him

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Anonymous

#14 2w

doesn't matter. any normal fifty year old should know it's wrong to get w someone as soon as they turn 18. you should not be okay with your 18 year old kid being with someone of that age.

Anonymous

#14 2w

Regardless he shouldn’t have gone for it? Mentally there is zero difference between a 17 year old minor and an 18 year old adult. There is a significant power imbalance you may have fell for it I hope that your child does not do the same. Poor baby

Anonymous

#4 2w

To each their own.

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Anonymous

OP 2w

exactly

Anonymous

OP 2w

At 18 you can fight for your country but not marry who you want? 🤣 I have much more of a fear of our kids joining the military at 18 like their father than them marrying someone they love.

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Anonymous

#14 2w

so you're perfect okay with a BARELY legal adult being w someone who is theoretically halfway through their life? got it. weird parents we got out here

Anonymous

#14 2w

just because you can do it doesn't mean it's not insanely gross and wrong...

Anonymous

#4 2w

Yes if any of our kids at 18 bring home someone they care about and there’s an age gap fine. They’re 18 years old. Mom and dad can’t call the shots forever.

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Anonymous

#14 2w

Yeah fighting and potentially killing people at 18 isn’t okay either? just because it’s legal doesn’t mean it’s not immoral 18 year olds are still mentally developing a bunch they’re is a power imbalance from a developing 18 year old and a fully developed middle aged man. He made more of a decision then you did

Anonymous

OP 2w

You’re so hung up on others marriage choices aren’t you 🤣

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Anonymous

#14 2w

When it’s borderline pedophilia it’s a bit concerning so yes lmao??

Anonymous

OP 2w

You really need to educate yourself on words you’re throwing out there

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Anonymous

#14 2w

Key word “borderline”

Anonymous

#14 2w

also yes people that are 18 can join the military but you should ask them how their mental health has been affected after doing such things, i find it weird hoe you think this is like normal? like he was 22 when you were born, doesn’t that strike you as odd? like he was already an adult and he like chose out a baby and said i was that one when she’s 18… this is making my stomach turn

Anonymous

#5 2w

Reading is fundamental. I met him on a vacation and I went after him 🤣 if anyone’s a creep it’s probably me

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Anonymous

#14 2w

yes, because of 40-year-old entertaining an 18-year-old is also completely normal on his part.. NOT, guy should have stayed away, probably likes them young, weirdo, leo#2 over here

Anonymous

#5 2w

Worry about yourself 🤣

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Anonymous

#14 2w

i would say worry about your kid but it’s not like you’re doing that either

Anonymous

#5 2w

the scream I scrumpt while reading this LMFAOOOO

Anonymous

#13 2w

I feel like they’re not telling the truth, like I don’t think anyone is this dumb, especially with everything that was said like no way

Anonymous

#5 2w

unfortunately I’ve met enough stupid people to know that there are in fact people this dumb. no matter what you say, they’re gonna think they’re right and it’s lowkey just sad 😬

Anonymous

#5 2w

I mean sure yes but the idea “you’ll change!” is true of literally every single marriage in existence, you say I Do regardless

Anonymous

#5 2w

My kids are perfectly fine.

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Anonymous

#5 2w

Clearly being happy is the equivalent to being dumb 🤦‍♀️

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Anonymous

#13 2w

Your life must be miserable

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Anonymous

#24 2w

yes but you’ll change gradually overtime while a not fully developed 18 year old will change more drastically until they hit about 25 or 26, so when they say “i do” it’s hormone fueled, not fueled by a life long commitment, that why everyone in the comments are saying it does not last

Anonymous

#13 2w

the real sadness is that when shit hits the fan they’re going to be “i never expected this” like this old guy what makes you think he’s not going to leave her for someone younger in a few years?

Anonymous

#14 2w

yeah perfectly fine until you’re like 50 and she’s 21 dating someone you know that’s also your age

Anonymous

#5 2w

Yall assuming he’s gonna up and leave me is hilarious 😂 even his ass admits he was lucky one time he ain’t pressing his luck

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Anonymous

#14 2w

I love my life! Thanks for that assumption though love 🫰🏻