micro cheating is still cheating, people!

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see i wouldn’t call it cheating bc technically i guesssss friends can hold hands and it’s not necessarily romantic? but also fuck that lmao get ur hands off my man idk

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As a dude, this is 100% cheating. If your boyfriend did this, youre cooked

278

Why tf is he holding someone else’s hand like whats the reason unless shes dying tf

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If it’s something YOU considering cheating then you consider it cheating and he has to accept it. Boundaries and cheating are different depending on the person. idk why he is fighting back to the point where you have to prove a point to him. Why tf is he even holding hands with someone else?

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Unless it’s in a clearly non-romantic context like comforting them in a bad emotional state, yeah that’s definitely weird, idk about full on cheating, but weird.

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Wether it's micro cheating or not but it's still cheating people so girl prove his dumbass right!

52

So we just holding hands with everyone now?

47

As a guy…Cheating no. But it is absolutely wrong.. I’d be upset if my gf was holding hands with another guy

33

Personally, I wouldn't care if my bf did that. But if knew you'd have a problem with it, it's cheating 100%

29

I’m queer so queer expressions of friendship and platonic love are different. We all hold hands frequently(it’s ingrained in us in public for some reason). The real question is does he avoid it when you bring it up or does he act like you’re accusing him. Those are telltale signs. It’s not cheating unless he likes her romantically emotionally. Or they’ve slept together. One of the two.

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the definition of cheating depends on your relationship with this one i think, but it is 100% weird and you are right to be upset.

20

is he gay by chance?

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Yea so like that’s still cheating you don’t have to have sex to cheat emotional cheating is real too

13

Are you shiting me

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Commas are important

13

I asked my bf this and he said “yeah you’re cooked she already has him” so there you go

13

leave him??

12

But what if I hold hands with my guy friend?

11

He cheating and your point don’t even need to be proven

9

Jarvis, I’m low on Karma

9

yes it absolutely is wtf 😭

8

It itself isn’t cheating but the fact that he’s doing it is 100% an indicator of cheating, confront his ass (and probably dump him imo)

8

The point is, is that it makes you uncomfortable. And instead of saying he won’t do it again, he’s fighting with you about it. Should have just said I’m sorry.

8

If you have to prove a point like this to your BF, that’s a concern

7

Holy karma farm

7

that’s a communal bf

6

Id say yes to cheating only because men arent socialized to hold hands in a non romantic way. Im a girl who holds hands with my other girl friends but ive never seen or known men to hold hands in a friendly way with each other past a certain age

6

I think it depends on how y’all personally decided to define cheating in your relationship. My gf can kiss other people and it’s not cheating, but that’s specifically because we talked about it and agreed that it was okay.

6

if u have to prove that to ur bf then you should prob break up

6

Would say cheating just weird asf and if you make that clear then that’s when I would say he disrespected my boundaries

5

im guessing you’re young. if you’ve already communicated boundaries then yes if it’s your definition of cheating. if you haven’t spoken to him and it makes you uncomfortable tell him. sometimes people don’t have those boundaries built in and if he does it again then he’s violating your boundary and you leave

5

Ur a dumb bitch if you’re fully posting this to prove something to ur bf when yk he’s cracking other bitches

4

As kindly as I can, let her have him. He’s already shown he’s not about you. Atp staying is just prolonging the inevitable

4

That’s cheating why u holding hands?

3

One time my boyfriend spent an entire weekend holding his moms hand more than mine (we are in our mid 20s) my honest to god response was “I’m sorry is she offering to have your babies too?” If it is something for you it needs to be for only you, doesn’t matter how big or how small. Entertaining another woman’s attention has no place in a relationship periodt

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Jarvis, farm karma

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I’m a man, but 100% microcheating is a thing and it comes in many ways from both parties. If your significant other doesn’t like something, that’s good enough reason to listen to them. It’s not that complicated haha. But beware, not always, but I’ve found that often times - the other person knows exactly what they’re doing, and they might just take advantage of how pliable you are. Protect your energy. You’re not crazy, you just don’t feel heard.

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Girl wth

2

Bruh that’s cheating wth

1

Like literally no guy should hold hands with a girl if he has a gf

1

There’s no world where this isn’t cheating 😭

1

For me it depends on who the friend is. We have some mutual friends and he even has some friends who I would absolutely not mind him holding hands with. Plus, he’s bisexual, so this wouldn’t just apply to girls for us.

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CHEATING

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CHEATING

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I don’t think that’s cheating but if you’re uncomfortable with it just ask them to stop

1

Um yes😭😭😭

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Holding hands does not need to be romantic, my boyfriend and I have both held the hands of our male and female friends in the past. Neither of us had an issue because we trust each other. If it is a boundary for you that you have communicated in the past then it is so fair to be upset, but holding hands can be a just-friends thing, and often is.

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You guys have to wake up and realize they are all cheating on you. No guy is 100% loyal and no you’re not the exception.

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Eatin’ ain’t cheatin’! 🙌

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