Anonymous #1 18h

The issue is more that we’ve been together 6 years, living together, and I’m ready to move forward into engagement/marriage/kids, while he feels like he needs to be more financially stable first. He makes a very low income right now and I’ve been carrying most of our expenses, so I think he also puts a lot of pressure on himself to “provide” in a traditional way before proposing.

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Anonymous #2 17h

I haven’t begged for a ring

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Anonymous OP 17h

not saying you did, but many women in your situation do. its a real possibility if you continue down this path good luck❤️

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Anonymous OP 17h

“ i’ve talked about this many times “ is too close to begging. he knows you want a ring.& he doesn’t gaf. 6 years & no ring is insane. he doesn’t want to marry you.

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Anonymous #3 17h

exactly

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Anonymous #3 17h

I was talking about the future and marriage in general.

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Anonymous OP 17h

ok cool. all of our points still stand. u should break up

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Anonymous #2 16h

Why?

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Anonymous #3 16h

im sorry im not trying to be rude but i have a snl like you. 6 years no ring. sole provider. it’s sad. i tell her leave all the time. his financial excuse hinders him from proposing but didn’t hinder him from dating and moving in with you while you’re the sole provider ?? stop making excuses for him my love :( or if you’re happy , that’s okay too. in the end this is your life.

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Anonymous #3 16h

your age also depends on it too. my snl is 27 they need to be ready to settle down. but if you’re like 22 and yall been tg 6 years thats different too because most the relationship was kiddie years. take everything into consideration and maybe reach out to a personal family or friend to give you advice. we’re just strangers on the internet. we don’t know you personally so it’s easy for us to say anything. i hope you find the happiness you’re looking for ☹️💕

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Anonymous #3 16h

You don’t even know me. You couldn’t even give me a real reason to break up. I’m the sole provider atm lol it most definitely hasn’t been like this for the entirety of our 6 year relationship.

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Anonymous OP 16h

"why?"...... at this point, you deserve what you accept. leave him or leave us out of it. keep waiting for that ring you'll never get ❤️❤️😍

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Anonymous #2 16h

You decided to involve yourself?

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Anonymous OP 16h

u decided to involve the internet when u posted this.... so if ur so happy, why even post about it

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Anonymous #2 16h

and you chose to comment and involve yourself? You’re not required to reply.

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Anonymous #2 16h

because I can post whatever I wanna post and rant about on confessions? You’re telling me to leave a relationship because I’m upset it’s stagnant. You can’t even give me a reason to actually leave.

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Anonymous OP 16h

lmao ok. i wish you good luck. to any ladies reading this, love yourselves & please dont lower your standards for anyone

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Anonymous #2 16h

you’re mad I won’t leave my boyfriend because he’s not making bank that says a lot more about you than it does me.

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Anonymous OP 16h

uh i didnt even know about the money thing... 😭❓ this was about him not treating you the way you wanted. aka you waiting 6 years for a ring after "talking to him about it so many times" you deserve to be treated better if your desires arent being met... which they clearly ARENT based on ur posts this sounds depressing. but stay if you want to. when u post online, u open urself up to hearing other ppls opinions.

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Anonymous #2 16h

It was there before you commented.

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Anonymous OP 15h

i never said leave your boyfriend ?? do what makes you happy. good luck girl.

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Anonymous OP 15h

i didnt read allat and not going to. best of luck

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Anonymous #3 14h

I was responding to #3

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Anonymous #2 14h

Then uninvolve yourself lmao

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Anonymous #4 13h

The same why it would benefit anyone else lmao

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Anonymous #5 13h

I wasn’t mad at anyone until they compared me to ppl I don’t know. If you are going to tell me I should break up with my boyfriend at least have a valid reason 😭

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Anonymous OP 13h

Idk you kinda made it sound like you’re tired of him not getting you a ring to some degree. Which makes sense, but then you act like it’s not as serious as you made it seem… So naturally people will be confused when their initial instinct is to support you and be in agreement with you and you also shut that down lol.

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Anonymous #5 13h

I’m upset that our life is stagnant but other people are progressing. I understand why he doesn’t have a ring but I just want marriage tbh

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Anonymous OP 13h

If you have talked to him many times, do you think he cares about what you want?

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Anonymous #5 13h

Yes. I’ve talked about marriage and kids on numerous occasions. He just thinks I want a big elaborate proposal and wedding when I don’t. I mean I used to but then my dad passed away. Ever since then I haven’t wanted any of that. He’s worried that I’m not being fully honest about it and that I’m falling back into my coping mechanisms (being reclusive and shutting people out)

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Anonymous OP 13h

So none?

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Anonymous #5 13h

He also is worried that I’ll regret our wedding if I follow through with the plans I once had. He wants to make enough money to make the old dreams happen.

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Anonymous #4 13h

Marriage does have benefits lol

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Anonymous OP 13h

If I don’t*

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Anonymous OP 12h

Then that’s the real problem, not that he just flat out doesn’t take you seriously and doesn’t want to get you a ring. You can’t blame people for not knowing the intricate personal details about your relationship. They will see what you say and take it at face value.

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Anonymous #5 12h

Yet they feel like they know me enough to compare me to their sister-in-law? I don’t expect people to know everything about my life. He’s known me for 6 years and has seen my self sabotaging. If you think he’s the only one saying that it’s my grief and depression talking then you’re mistaken. My therapist also agrees bc it’s a huge impulsive decision to go from a fully planned out wedding to just being married. It might be or it might not be 🤷‍♀️ I haven't felt like celebrating much in life anymore

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Anonymous #5 12h

I just want to be married and consider having kids

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Anonymous OP 12h

Lol maybe for the woman. I don’t see how losing half your stuff in a divorce is beneficial

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Anonymous #4 12h

most people don't go into marriage thinking about divorce (at least i hope not)

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Anonymous OP 12h

i compared you to my snl because yall are both going through the same thing and it’s sad. if you 6 years in deep and your bf been knew you wanted to get married to the point where you’re dreading it , that’s sad. if he wanted to he would. but if you’re happy that’s all that matters lol. i wish you well.

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Anonymous #3 11h

You don’t know me. Stop comparing me to people when you have no clue what I’m going through.

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