Confessions on Sidechat | as someone with recently diagnosed adhd, (ie i went through all of school and college without any accommodation or medicine) wayyy too many of you blame wayyy too much on adhd. We can be on time, we can make small talk and more

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Confessions 1d

as someone with recently diagnosed adhd, (ie i went through all of school and college without any accommodation or medicine) wayyy too many of you blame wayyy too much on adhd. We can be on time, we can make small talk and more

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Anonymous 1d

L I T E R A L L Y

Anonymous 1d

idk man as someone who grew up with undiagnosed autism and significant executive dysfunction like yea i learned to do all that stuff but it sucked so hard and im permanently traumatized from it and it’s important to remember how different everybody experiences neurodivergence so what you can do not everyone can necessarily do as well

Anonymous 1d

Oof they not gonna like this but preach

Anonymous

#2 1d

that being said yeah there’s always things we can do to work on things and grow skills

Anonymous

#2 1d

just because it sucked doesn’t mean you should be absolved of that responsibility

Anonymous

#2 1d

and yes everyone experiences ND differently, but it should not be a crutch for things that are fixable

Anonymous

OP 1d

saying it sucks doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try but it does mean you should be careful with the “if i did it you can too” because you have no idea how much harder it can be for others and even when people are literally trying their best these things can be a constant struggle. symptoms of a lifetime condition aren’t something you can “fix” i’m afraid

Anonymous

#2 1d

like yea i learned how to do all that stuff from just trying hard and burning myself out but like that comes with like being kinda fucked up the rest of my life so knowing that i feel like it’s not really fair to ask people to just try harder when that’s not really a simple nor realistic task

Anonymous

#2 1d

you’re conflating symptoms with behaviors. we absolutely can fix behaviors and endorsing the idea that we can’t bc our brains are some way is infantilizing ND ppl and more hurtful than rejecting that idea

Anonymous

#2 1d

you’re not fucked up for the rest of your life, you can in fact alleviate that too. It absolutely is fair and it is both simple and realistic to eg be on time to things

Anonymous

OP 1d

well no i now have a dissociative disorder and mdd so like nah that’s not going away

Anonymous

OP 1d

i’m afraid i don’t get it cuz symptoms of neurodivergence often take the form of behaviors? like managing time poorly is a behavior. but regardless i didn’t say we can’t improve i said neurodivergence isn’t something you “fix” meaning it’s something you have to constantly manage so all im really drawing problem with is your tone and word choice it strikes me as trivializing