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Confessions 6d

Why are yall with people who can’t satisfy you emotionally, physically, mentally, intellectually, even spiritually if that matters to you. Why?

Anonymous 6d

people fear being single

Anonymous 6d

No bc I never understood people who are in relationships where there is intelligence divide between the two. Some people have asked me what I see in my fiancé (mainly cause he’s older) and it’s always “he actually stimulates my brain and is smart” and they are baffled

Anonymous 6d

My experience is that most people haven’t learned what they want yet and are too busy trying things out to fully understand and comprehend how each decision affects different aspects of their well being. Either parents don’t talk to them or they don’t listen when the parents do, add peer pressure and the desire to conform to unachievable norms and there’s your problem in a nutshell.

Anonymous 6d

idk i just had no self respect

Anonymous

#1 6d

Is it being single or being alone?

Anonymous

OP 6d

many think they’re the same thing

Anonymous

#1 6d

It took awhile but I learned they are far different.

Anonymous

#2 6d

I am there now as well with my fiancé.

Anonymous

OP 6d

It’s just that, why would I want to waste my time with someone who isn’t capable of having deep conversations. I’m not trying to brag but my fiancé is a doctor, he has a higher education and a depth of knowledge that is stimulating. I have a PhD and when it finally came for me to start dating, education was important to me.

Anonymous

#2 6d

Emotional Maturity is a game changer. lol

Anonymous

#3 6d

Yeah, it really is.

Anonymous

#2 6d

That what I mean me and fiancé are there, both of our interests and intelligence are vast but in differing fields that hearing him talk about it, brings light to me about his field and light to him about mine. That connection is stimulating cause I love hearing about his work and hearing him talk about it. Education is important but not always traditional.

Anonymous

OP 6d

Yes, that’s how my fiancé and I are as well. He works in emergency medicine and I am an art history professor. Two vastly different things but we are deeply invested in sharing knowledge and talking about things in our respective fields. I agree with your last statement, education is important but not traditional.