Confessions on Sidechat | Posting here as I can’t vent about this with anyone in case my hubs finds out. I’ve been miserable in my marriage for at least 8 years out of 10. I won’t divorce and let my children grow up in a broken home, they’re none the wiser at the moment. (Cont)

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Confessions 2w

Posting here as I can’t vent about this with anyone in case my hubs finds out. I’ve been miserable in my marriage for at least 8 years out of 10. I won’t divorce and let my children grow up in a broken home, they’re none the wiser at the moment. (Cont)

Anonymous 2w

He’s a good Dad to the kids even if I do most of the legwork/planning but he speaks to me however he wants, makes demands of me, makes no effort for us to have any kind of relationship as he is always playing Xbox with his friends/siblings. We don’t sleep in the same bed together but will occasionally come get in my bed and demand sex from me in which he rushes to his own climax without any extra touching/kissing and then leaves to go back to his Xbox/own bed He refuses to admit we need any help

Anonymous 2w

Not giving you advice. My parents stayed together for us for 25 years and hated one another. They thought they were saving us the trouble of losing a childhood. It was worse. We knew how miserable they were. Our relationships was never the same. Our view of intimate relationships will never recover, only what we saw on TV.

Anonymous 2w

And no, I’m not looking for anything. I don’t really care how anyone responds. I just need to write it down somewhere. 😞

Anonymous 2w

Sometimes just getting it out of what you need. I was in a similar relationship with my ex, she was completely detached it felt, and it was incredibly isolating

Anonymous

#1 2w

I do feel isolated tbh. He always superficially tells me that he loves me and still wants to be married to me but there’s no affection in our relationship. No kisses, no cuddling, the only time he ever touches me is when he wants sex and then it’s back to the coldness straight after.

Anonymous

OP 2w

Yeah that’s how it was for me, it felt very transactional and empty.

Anonymous

#2 2w

This^^ The kids, whether you think they know now or not, will soon feel it. My parents were separated but married for 11 years before they decided to formally divorce. If they would have actually divorced initially, sure it would’ve been painful, but would have been WAY less painful in the long run.