Anonymous #2 42w

They can want whatever they want I’m just sad I can’t find any guy who wants the same things as me. I don’t think that’s such a problem.

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First of all who knows if I’ll even make it to 80? I’d rather live my life enjoying the present moment than worrying about some future that isn’t guaranteed. Second, that’s a selfish reason to have kids. Third, just because I won’t have my own kids doesn’t mean I won’t still have other family members and friends.

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Anonymous OP 42w

That’s fair. I’m sad I can’t find a woman who is loyal, doesn’t want me just for money, won’t take advantage of me, won’t manipulate me, and won’t do the bare minimum

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Anonymous OP 42w

Genuinely what is wrong with my comment or my post? I’m not even hating on other people

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Anonymous OP 42w

This is how you end up a homeless retiree btw

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I just don’t want that for me and I want to find a guy who feels the same. That is all.

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Anonymous #5 42w

What are you talking about?

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Anonymous OP 42w

“Why plan for a future that isn’t guaranteed” is how you end up financially fucked. You can have fun while still being responsible enough to support your future self

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Anonymous #5 42w

Okay obviously I financially plan for my future (which btw NOT having kids is better financially) but what I meant is if I don’t want to raise kids why would I commit my life to that just so that MAYBE I have a caretaker when I’m old?

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Anonymous OP 42w

You don’t. And people who do have kids shouldn’t plan on them being primary caregivers either. But the reply of “who knows if I’ll even make it to 80” and “why plan for a future that isn’t guaranteed” is the foundation of a lot of poor financial mistakes. You can be childfree that’s fine but don’t be a throw all my money away when I get it on the fun things I want to do now person either

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Are you saying that having kids or not having kids is selfish? Because there is quite literally no selfish reason to not have kids because you don’t owe anything to someone who doesn’t even exist yet lol

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Anonymous #5 42w

I said worry not plan. Never used the word plan. And next time look at the context of the conversation to figure out what I was talking about. Money wasn’t even the topic.

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Anonymous OP 42w

Just calling things as I see it

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Plenty of happy old child free people out there. You’re accusing her of focusing on living in the moment but knowing you don’t want kids IS planning for the future. Children are a lifelong commitment not everyone enjoys. For many people their quality of life plummets when they have kids, especially if they are women.

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