Anonymous #1 2w

Objectification ^^ where a women just men as objects and diagnoses all of them with unrealistic and inhumane personality traits because she doesn’t see them as people

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Anonymous #3 2w

So why are you dating her at all if she’s not your best friend

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Anonymous #5 2w

Most common reason is that one of them (ok the girl) conditioned sex on him saying the magic word (“girlfriend”). She convinced herself that if he fakes it now, he’ll fall for her later, and uses sex to keep him around. He convinced himself that if she sleeps with him now, she’ll be attracted to him later, and uses good morning texts to keep her around. Both are being stupid, but until one of them realizes it, theyll be in a “relationship” (sorta) while not being bffs. Elegant system lol.

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Anonymous #3 2w

How did you manage to blame the gf at all?? If the guy isn’t in love with her he should just leave her how is the gf at fault unless she’s forcing him to be in a relationship which is assault

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Anonymous #6 2w

And, likewise, if she isn’t attracted to him, she should just leave him. But then neither of them get to briefly feel like they’re getting what they want. Trading sex you don’t want for romantic gestures he doesn’t mean is very stupid, but it’s not necessarily deceptive. The sex is as insincere as the label. Yes, it’s possible to be led on in a relationship by someone hiding their intentions. But more often in my experience the girl proposes it and is amazingly blunt, she’ll like, directly say

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Anonymous #3 2w

she’ll have sex with him once he calls them a couple but not before. So he does the obvious thing and complies with her terms. When it’s that transactional, both people understand what they’re buying. So like I said, stupid, but not deceptive (to each other anyway), and that’s why not all couples are best friends.

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Anonymous #3 2w

Of course if she isn’t attracted to him she should leave. That’s a given? In this situation, we’re talking about men you don’t need to point out the obvious. You’re letting your bias from your experience consume your response.

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Anonymous #6 2w

I was answering the question YOU asked me. *I* thought it was a given, but if it was, you wouldn’t have needed me to spell it out for you (at least not a second time). And in this context, “bias from my experience” is just a silly way of saying “reality”. I mean, surely we’re not pretending this is an uncommon thing?

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Anonymous #3 2w

How would you know if it’s common? Have you done scientific research on all women? It’s just bias based on what you experienced which is natural, but isn’t what OP was talking about. Also, you didn’t answer the question because it was rhetorical. The point of saying that was because you’re ADDING stuff to the scenario to blame the gf. That’s where your bias shows.

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Anonymous #6 2w

I haven’t done scientific research to prove it rains water more commonly than RC cola. But ive observed it, and so often I didn’t think it was in dispute. What’s your point? Are you actually saying im wrong? About the rain or the relationship thing? And how do you figure it isn’t what op was talking about? Don’t you think that accounts for a lot of “men can be in a relationship and not catch feelings”? And you can still answer a rhetorical question. Fun thing about them: if the answer surpris

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Anonymous #3 2w

es you, it was a lousy rhetorical question but would’ve made a great sincere one! And I’m not changing anything. I’VE been describing the same scenario the whole time lol, just with more detail for the benefit of the confused (no offense).

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Anonymous #3 2w

Ik bc the op is asking about the man not the woman. You keep bringing up how the woman feels when it’s not relevant to the question. They literally asked why does the man date her at all if that’s not his best friend. This answer does not require you to bring up how the girl feels because it’s irrelevant. If you don’t like someone you should just leave it’s that simple. You blamed the gf when that wasn’t part of the scenario. YOU added it. Yes, this can happen in real life. Not the point.

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Anonymous #3 2w

Yes, you did change the scenario. Read the original post again and show me where it says anything about how the gf in the relationship feels or how she’s conditioning sex with him. YOU added that part when it had nothing to do with what op said originally. The rhetorical question is fine bc I literally answer why you shouldn’t have blamed her right after I “asked” it.

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Anonymous #6 2w

Omg scroll back and read. My initial comment in response to op did not in any way discuss the woman’s actions/motives/feelings or anything else. I didn’t mention those until 5 and you both asked questions boiling to which, yes, the correct answer IS absolutely that men are reacting to stuff women do (and vice versa ofc). You REALLY don’t see how each person’s actions in a relationship have anything to do with how the other reacts? You’re the one playing the blame game; my answer didn’t blame any

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Anonymous #3 2w

I’m not talking about your original comment that’s why I didn’t reply to it. My original reply was to that bs comment where you blamed the gf. And yes you did place blame on the gf. If you don’t like someone don’t get in a relationship with them and don’t stay with them if you lose feelings it’s very simple I’m getting tired of repeating the same things at you and you not understanding

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Anonymous #3 2w

one, it was just true. Which is what you hated about it bc you didn’t want to understand what I was saying, you just wanted to be mad. If you don’t want to risk learning something inconvenient, don’t ask questions lol. That’s a hazard of learning literally anything. And yes, you answered your own question, but incorrectly. You run the risk of being corrected doing that. Sorry, I guess? And, again, I wasn’t responding to OP, I was responding to #5’s question of why you’d date someone you weren

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Anonymous #3 2w

‘t best friends with and I said “the most common reason is…” . I wasn’t making something up about op’s own specific scenario, I was just following the flow of conversation where others took it. Tbh I really don’t know how to explain that concept to you.

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Anonymous #3 2w

Dude I didn’t say I responded to my own question, I said I explain why you shouldn’t blame the gf. The question was not “should you or should you not blame the gf” I don’t care about what you said about the gf and whether it’s true or not. What you said would be fine and insightful IF that’s what the question was. Alas, it’s not so I pointed it out.

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