Confessions on Sidechat | I hate that it’s taboo to tell a parent they’re doing a shitty job. Your kids shouldn’t be fat Your kids should have good hygiene Your kids should have manners Your kids should behave at school This is a parental problem. Quit giving kids ipads. Parent

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Confessions 2d

I hate that it’s taboo to tell a parent they’re doing a shitty job. Your kids shouldn’t be fat Your kids should have good hygiene Your kids should have manners Your kids should behave at school This is a parental problem. Quit giving kids ipads. Parent

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Anonymous 2d

This should extend to school admin imo. When I was being horribly abused at home I didn’t have manners at school, I had horrible hygiene, and the school insisted my parents were perfect and I was just weird

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Anonymous 2d

A bit, okay maybe completely, unrelated, but it’s also a school admin problem for bending over backwards for parents and not defending teachers

Anonymous 2d

What about baby fat? My family is generic for baby fat but after puberty it goes away, but we were all fat little boys LMAO.

Anonymous 2d

I would like to add a little to this, your kid shouldn’t be obese. Then shouldn’t be fat after the age of somewhere like 10, just because I know as a kid how much I fluctuated in weight up until that point so I can see how you can have a larger child but once their metabolism levels out that’s when they should not be fat.

Anonymous 2d

There are way too many factors outside a parent’s control that could contribute to these things for anyone to blindly assign blame

Anonymous 1d

As someone who’s fat, I saw it as a choice between fat or raging alcoholic and figured fat was the lesser of the evils. Not saying it’s right, just saying sometimes there are bigger battles to be won.

Anonymous 2d

Fucking a right man.

Anonymous 1d

iPads wouldn’t be the full issue by itself but a lot of parenting can lead to this. Also fat is incredibly objective. I was considered obese in middle school because I weighed 165 and 4’10. I had terrible self confidence but looking back on the picture I looked normal? I think I work a size 12-14. I had barely any pudge. Most of the weight came from my developed chest, and muscles from farm work but that doesn’t matter in terms of BMI

Anonymous 2d

Heavy on the first one. As a parent, your job is to teach your kid how to have a healthy relationship with food

Anonymous 1d

I don’t think you understand for some people if they have one meal they gain a lot of weight….

Anonymous 2d

and parents will see this behavior and somehow justify their child’s behavior and refuse to take accountability

Anonymous 1d

i told my mom this then now i haven’t spoken to her in 3 years

Anonymous 1d

and they shouldn't not be fat because they're just insecure and have/are getting an ED. they should know when to eat and not to eat, they should have the option to go walk or play outside regularly, and ideally they should be fed nutritiously

Anonymous 1d

As a school admin, please don’t blame us. We report parents to child services a lot. It is very complex, we also want to be supportive of parents. We have social workers, psychologists, and guidance counselors who should also be helping, identifying, etc.

Anonymous 2d

It’s unfortunately too late for so many

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Anonymous

#2 2d

(When it comes to behavioral issues)

Anonymous

#3 2d

This. A lot of the kids I knew in school growing up who had these issues were actually being raised in horrible conditions, and instead of the school stepping in to help they just punished the kids for misbehaving

Anonymous

#7 2d

They obviously mean medically obese

Anonymous

#8 2d

Besides, studies consistently show that shame is not an effective tool for change. If we really care about these issues, we should be looking into proactive measures on a societal level to try to reduce them

Anonymous

#3 2d

My fault og, no need to downvote 🙌🏽

Anonymous

#3 2d

That is unbelievable. Why do so many public school admin systems bootlick parents?? It’s not like the parents are paying tuition!!

Anonymous

#2 2d

easier to bootlick than to get involved i guess

Anonymous

#15 1d

165 at 4’10 is in fact obese idk what you want me to tell you💀

Anonymous

#13 1d

It suck’s bcs you don’t need alcohol to live but food is a necessity and this country makes it so much more unhealthier and addictive

Anonymous

#11 1d

A lot of parents don’t have that themselves and can’t say no to their kids

Anonymous

OP 1d

Yall can downvote me all you want but I would not describe a girl with this body as obese. The military doesn’t even use BMI. They use Body Fat % using measurements. Not weight.

Anonymous

#15 1d

These girls are amazing fuck anyone who says otherwise.

Anonymous

#1 1d

lol those are all the same girl. 4’11 at 165-185lbs

Anonymous

#1 1d

I’m sure she is amazing, however a 4’10 12 year old should not weigh 165. That causes strain on joints that already have growing stress on them

Anonymous

#18 1d

They shouldn’t be gaining enough weight to become medically obese after one meal

Anonymous

#8 1d

Societal shame🤓

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Anonymous

OP 1d

I was 13-14 due to starting school late but also, as you can see, my body size was completely normal despite the weight number. I had an average diet and did farm work. I was not lazy nor eating junk. It is just how my body was. Muscle weighs more than fat. And yk what farm work gives you? MUSCLE. The BMI scale is terrible and inaccurate to actual bodies that are complicated. It’s archaic.

Anonymous

OP 1d

BMI would have you believe I was bordering MORBIDLY obese. I definitely was not.

Anonymous

#15 1d

okay so you’re basing a load of obese children’s identities on your singular experience…

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Anonymous

#15 1d

Dude I’m sorry but in those photos you don’t look completely normal, you look overweight. BMI is far from a perfect scale, but it’s not complete nonsense either

Anonymous

#20 1d

I think this largely depends on the school. I went to a very small public school and we only had a school counselor who sent me back to class after telling her about being SAed at home. She did end up calling my parents and telling the principal but sending me back to class after divulging that crying was crazy. I feel like legally others should’ve been called too. Also other stuff but that bothered me the most.

Anonymous

#3 20h

Overweight sure. But weight fluctuates a lot during adolescence. Again, BMI would’ve had me labeled as bordering morbidly obese, which is obviously inaccurate. But slightly overweight is drastically different than obesity.

Anonymous

#10 20h

There are numerous upon numerous videos on the internet that talk about inaccuracies of BMI. Especially with children (girls more so) whose hormonal changes causes crazy weight fluctuations. And plenty of women have issues with BMI if they have larger chests. My tits alone weigh close to ten pounds. Women are CURVY. Kids are hormonal. Weight is not an accurate representation of people’s bodies. Period

Anonymous

#3 20h

There are plenty of medical issues that can cause weight gain that is hard to lose (hypothyroidism, Cushings, PCOS, or medication like antidepressants and birth control) and unfortunately you have to eat to live so if you gain 0.2 oz everytime you eat that is about 45lbs a year. Off very little weight gain per meal— and that’s only doing 1 meal per day btw

Anonymous

#15 19h

That would be 4.6 pounds💀 14 ish for 3 meals a day. Idk WHAT MATH has you thinking 0.2 oz * 365days gets you to 45 pounds 😭 you’re also not factoring in that only 28% of children get regular exercise. That is a parental issue. Quit trying to make excuses for people having overweight children.

Anonymous

OP 17h

Sorry I meant 2oz not .2 oz but my point isn’t that parents don’t have overweight kids but blaming parents without knowledge of the circumstances isn’t right either due to WHY they could have increased weight outside of healthy habits, such as medical issues or medication. Also a lot of parents with school age children only provide them with ONE meal 5 days out of the week as breakfast and lunch are served AT SCHOOL. School age children (outside of summer) consume more food at school than home

Anonymous

OP 17h

Not to mention, some schools don’t provide PE after a certain age. I no longer got PE at my school after 6th grade. And children spend about 1/3 of their awake time per week at school so school that don’t provide an PE could be at fault vs the parents alone