Anonymous babyoilbandit 1w

lmao

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Anonymous #4 1w

proving my point babe

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Anonymous #5 1w

it has nothing to do with being/staying sad. it’s just weird you’re incapable of being single. if you move on that fast i assume you have poor judgment and are scared to be alone. if you can “find someone better” in a couple weeks you’re choosing bad people lol

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Everyone has flaws but I’m big on communication and implement counseling techniques to help. I’ve had guys point out my flaws and vice versa. Each individual should already be working on self improvement whether they’re in a relationship or not.But if we end things it’s because something wasn’t fixable/compatible so there’s no point in moping about it. That’s my point.

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Anonymous OP 1w

If it’s not about being sad then what’s the positive aspect of being alone? If someone cheats on you you can either be sad or you can realize that they’re a shitty person and they don’t deserve your time. That’s common sense. If you don’t see that I assume you have poor judgement. Also I don’t choose toxic guys so it’s not difficult to find a man who has the basic qualities for a healthy relationship. If you think that’s difficult it’s because you’re surrounding yourself with bad people.

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Or she knew that having children is very tough on the body, hormones, and mental health of the woman and it’d be easier on her if she had them younger. I think 27 is a good compromise but if she wanted a big family and to take a year between each birth starting at 27 is kinda late. 32 is when pregnancies become high risk due to maternal age….

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Yeah that’s dumb you’re better off without her. A keeping up with the joneses type is exhausting lol

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…ok? I still don’t think your life would’ve been better if you wallowed in the sadness of losing her for months instead of realizing you guys weren’t compatible and figuring out what signs to look for so you don’t make the same mistake again and move on. She clearly didn’t waste time moping about you so I don’t think it’s wrong for you to move on too. Not sure what your point is anymore tbh

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Anonymous #5 1w

it’s about being able to be comfortable while alone. if you can’t manage that, in my experience, you tend to be extremely codependent. you should be able to be okay on your own for a bit lol. i also don’t think you truly value the people you’re dating if you’re moving on that quick. or you’re just shallow and have low standards, which in that case go off ig

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Anonymous OP 1w

I love my alone time tbh. It’s a deal breaker for me. I love cuddling and stuff but every few days I need to be alone to relax by myself. I also prioritize time with my friends so that I don’t lose myself in a relationship. I’ve taken an 8 month break from dating once and tbh it didn’t help me but it did make it harder to get back into dating. And I do value those that value me. Idk what’s not clicking for y’all but if you want to pine after someone who doesn’t gaf about you then go off.

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Anonymous OP 1w

And tbh most of my breakups have been for things like moving out of state and I didn’t want to go with him or do long distance for over a year or me not liking their (abusive) family dynamics and realizing that they wouldn’t take the steps to break away from that. They weren’t bad guys but if I know that a relationship will deteriorate then I’m not going to waste my time. My standards are high tbh which is why I move like that.

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Anonymous OP 1w

Either way just the way you’re so pressed about what other people do and how you’re trying to assume the most negative possibility is making your jealousy blatantly obvious. If you’re mad they moved on quickly that’s a you problem tbh. You shouldn’t even care, you should be looking forward towards your future not focusing on a past that didn’t serve you. That’s a free gem I just saved you like 10k in therapy sessions lmao

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My culture focuses on them being in heaven more than not having them. Sometimes I miss them or see something that makes me think of them but for me it’s more about how they’re not suffering any discomfort or annoyances or pain anymore. I let myself be sad for five or ten minutes, then I focus on happy memories then I move on to something else. I read that advice somewhere and it works amazingly tbh. Being sad is easy but honestly kind of pointless. It won’t bring them back. I focus on the good.

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Anonymous #5 1w

idk where you got the idea of me pining after someone who doesn’t like me back haha but that’s definitely not the case. i make guys wait and prove their worth before giving them a chance. jumping from one relationship to another feels gross and i don’t need to be dating someone to be happy. i find it odd when others need to always be in relationships

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Anonymous OP 1w

You don’t have to sleep with someone right away to make them prove their worth. Maybe that’s the difference tbh. When I’m single I’m VERY picky and I skip over any even yellow flags. Then when I find someone who fits my criteria +chemistry I naturally only talk to them and the others fall to the wayside. So then the next two or three months I’m just focused on them and vice versa then we start dating. It works because I didn’t waste time on maybes.

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Anonymous #5 1w

this also isn’t referring to an ex if that’s what you’re thinking hahaha. it’s directed at friends/family members who constantly get obsessed with new people, have their honeymoon phase, realize they’re not compatible, break up, and repeat the cycle with the next available person. it shows bad judgement imo and it annoys me watching the same preventable cycle over and over. it’s not jealousy it’s annoyance

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Anonymous OP 1w

And I don’t rely on other people don’t make me happy. I believe that I make and am responsible for my own happiness. But it is natural for humans to crave companionship and also from a realist standpoint, I want to be married and have biological children so there is a biological clock. To me being in a relationship is an extra that I like and am capable of having so why not? Just like sprinkles on ice cream. It’s fine without but extra nice with.

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Dang she cheated?? What a piece of crap😭

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Anonymous OP 1w

Oh ok yeah I get that. I thought u meant every single person. All my relationships since high school have been over 1 year. 3 years, 1, 1, 3. Max time in between relationships was 8 months after I left my finance. I paused to mourn the life we prepared for and figure out what red flags I missed. Also to debate if I should’ve settled, but I didn’t want a lifetime of his main issue so I’m glad I didn’t. That break made it harder to start dating again, so that’s why I don’t agree with long breaks.

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