Anonymous #1 4d

It is. Like why do I wanna jump random strangers? Thanks biology 🙄

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Anonymous OP 4d

Well I hope you can survive it this week

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Anonymous #3 4d

Actually most women want men to show emotion because it’s…. Healthy. Don’t blame women for men not showing emotion when it was men who created that standard…. Also if men did show emotion and learned emotional intelligence/ communication, you would not have to put up with “women’s shit” (that most of the time is also a man’s fault).

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Anonymous #6 4d

Actually, most of the time it’s the women’s fault. The women usually brings things up that aren’t that big of a deal and it’s in their head. Oh, you guys want men to show emotion? Then why is it that when I do they are disgusted? Not sure where you’re getting “most” from. And men do have emotional intelligence and communication. We simply don’t let emotions run our entire life like women do. In addition, I want to avoid the drama because a lot of emotional women like to get involved with drama.

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Anonymous #3 4d

“We simply don’t let emotions run our entire lives like women do”. lol, is anger not an emotion? Or are all those violent assaults, murders and domestic violence statistics made up?

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Anonymous #1 4d

The libido they experience is caused by testosterone being produced, which tends to be at least 10x lower than what men experience daily. However, this gives no excuses for some men not controlling themselves, that’s still a basic thing to do.

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Anonymous #10 4d

Yeah fr like I’m not gonna steal from someone’s plate because I’m hungry. Same basic concept.

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Anonymous #3 4d

If you were with a woman who was disgusted by crying or expressing nonviolent emotions then you were with the wrong woman.

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Anonymous #3 4d

Also, if I woman brings up something she doesn’t like she’s creating a boundary. And if you keep breaking that boundary then you do not have emotion intelligence or the capability of communicating properly. However is there disrespectful and extremely dramatic women yes. But don’t think men don’t have a part in it.

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Anonymous #6 4d

Amen, like come on guys. Boundaries and communication are healthy, and if you can’t even respect those you don’t deserve a woman in your life

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Anonymous #1 4d

The thing is I do respect them. I have had many comments from female friends that say I’m good at it. That I’m nice, that I’m loyal, that I’m everything they would want in a bf. But I’m still fucking single. Because these women want someone who’s making 6 figures and white and 6 feet tall and white. I’m 5’4” and Asian and finishing up college so of course I’m gonna single. Dating is fucked because BOTH the majority of men and women suck.

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Anonymous #5 4d

No, your lack of control is a psychological issue not a hormonal issue. Women have testosterone too, a lot even have elevated testosterone levels and have self control

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Anonymous #6 4d

Then who is the right one? How do you know? That’s it… you don’t know until your heart is broken and it’s not a risk worth taking. I’m not doing the drama, not doing the co-dependency

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Anonymous #3 4d

Idk man, someone who makes these stereotypical comments online usually doesn’t respect women irl. I also love how you ignored my point about anger in men and what it leads to.

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Anonymous #11 4d

Women don’t produce nearly the amount of testosterone that men do. Even if it is elevated. Men produce significantly higher amounts. You can’t just say it’s psychological because that’s simply not the case.

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Anonymous #11 4d

If it had nothing to do with hormones then self control would not be needed

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Anonymous #5 4d

And yet there are many testosterone filled men that don’t have high libidos. It’s not the sole factor, and I dislike how you are using “testosterone” as an excuse.

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Anonymous #8 4d

Because it’s a huge part of it. It’s a mixture of both hormonal and psychological. The men who do have high self control. Have to take measures to get there. Whether that’s semen retention, celibacy for a bit. Basically lacking the body of sexual dopamine

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Anonymous #8 4d

I don’t like how they made it seem like it’s simply a mental issue, basically downplaying testosterone like it doesn’t affect the body significantly especially in the high amounts it’s produced in men. Sure it’s not just that but when you mix that in with the mental lust. It’s not easy to get rid of

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Anonymous #5 4d

No one has ever argued that it’s easy to get rid of lust. We said have decency and self control. No amount of hormones will ever drive you to do the things some men do, they just lack control. Ovulation is literally equivalent to animals in heat yet women don’t go around humping people like we’re dogs

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Anonymous #11 4d

So when you say self control what are you referring it to? I’m thinking we’re talking about lust, and addiction.

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Anonymous #5 4d

a lack of self control shouldn't apply to fucking someone who said no

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Anonymous #5 4d

Lust and addiction are two separate things. You have no idea what you are talking about.

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Anonymous #3 4d

I get that, I haven’t found really good men either like most I’ve seen is cheaters and pedophiles. But nowadays it is also our society that is teaching certain things. There as good men and women out there but we can’t generalize and make all women look evil when we are taught from birth and have to unlearn societal pressures that men now have to as well.

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Anonymous #8 4d

Could you point to where “society” (whom?) said that “men don’t have to have self control!” Because I call complete nonsense on that.

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Anonymous #11 4d

Neither do men though ..?

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Anonymous #8 4d

Brother what?😭 addiction is fueled by lust are we being serious right now? Please stop responding to me. You’re wrong asl trying tell me idk what I’m talking about.

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Anonymous #14 4d

Ok if we’re talking about rape or harassment then I rescind my comment. Testosterone has nothing to do with that. I had the wrong subject at hand.

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Anonymous #5 4d

😭😭😭 i'm not sure if that's what OP was talking about but that is absolutely how i interpreted their post. if it's not about that, then my bad!!

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Anonymous #14 4d

Honestly I don’t even blame you fr I’m thinking we’re talking about lust because people were mentioning ovulation and shit but idek😭😭😭

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Anonymous #5 4d

it's a really vague topic we're going over😭😭 other than w rape and harassment tho yeah men definitely struggle w self control😭 especially when it comes to reckless endangerment of themselves LOL

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Anonymous #5 4d

“Addiction if fueled by lust” bruh what.

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I’m bigger and yet I still don’t steal peoples food, there’s no excuse for a lack of self control regardless of your appearance

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Anonymous #6 4d

Yall generalize men so what’s the difference

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Calling out one individual person who makes false and inflammatory statements is not “generalisation” lol. What a snowflake.

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Anonymous #8 4d

Addiction to sexual dopamine. Meaning pornography addiction, or constant horniness, or only seeing women as a piece of meat. Those types of things are fueled by lust. So they may be different in what they are but they work hand and hand together. I know what I’m talking about

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Anonymous OP 4d

well actually millions of women ovulate and only wanna sleep with one person, one bop doesn't make everyone a bop

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Anonymous #15 4d

it’s less “men don’t have to have self control” and more “men don’t have self control, period,” although both messages exist and are communicated in subtle ways

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Anonymous #19 4d

for example when you can have someone like say donald trump, a convicted rapist and most certainly in the epstein files continue being president with little to no real consequences…it sends the message that men can do whatever they want and also suffer no consequence

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Anonymous #19 4d

when you have people like andrew tate spewing all kinds of nonsense like how men want/need multiple (young) sexual partners, and he becomes very popular for saying these types of things, and you have people either not taking him seriously or defending him…

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Anonymous #19 4d

when you have prageru videos on men being visual creatures or whatever the fuck, that they just can’t help/control this instinct about themselves and shouldn’t be demonized for it as a defense against an argument no one is making, and then you have prageru starting to become school curriculum in some places…

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Anonymous #19 4d

like i could go on.

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Anonymous #19 4d

yes of course there’s plenty of preaching about how men can and should have self control but at the moment it isn’t all that much louder than the constant reminders that men don’t need to have it and can continue living materially normal, even amazing lives if they just don’t give a fuck about others. not to say they’re not suffering in their own way, but

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Anonymous #8 4d

And I’m not generalizing women either like you’re accusing me of doing. I’m only talking to the people in this thread. And false? So you’re calling my experiences false? Verbal and emotional abuse by females in my past is false? You’re making inflammatory statements because of your unwillingness to understand the experience of another. I do believe there are good women out there but I don’t know the equation to find them

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Anonymous #18 4d

Ok but like one time this guy genuinely idk wtf he was wearing but he smelt so fucking good holy shit but I’ve only had that extreme of a reaction on my period once

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Anonymous #5 4d

They can be linked together but they are not the same thing. Hunger is not inherently the same as a food addiction, although one plays a role in the other. You do not know what you are talking about. Especially since the objectification of women does not require lust and vice versa.

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Anonymous #8 4d

It’s not “can be” they are linked together in fact lust is the main key factor to addiction.You need lust to have lustful thinking, you need lust to be addicted sexually. Objectifying women sexually is literally is literally a form of lust if the only thing you can think about is her body. What’re we talking about rn😭.

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Anonymous #3 4d

When did I ever say that it’s false that women can abuse people? I was focusing on your statement that women on average let their emotions run them more, which simply isn’t true. Given that you double down on these statements and refer to us as “females”, it seems that you have let your past abusive relationships justify your current sexism and dehumanisation of us, and it’s really unfortunate. See a therapist would be my recommendation.

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Anonymous #21 4d

Bro I do I be literally done and going “why tf I do that?” It may be a little different, but it’s still there

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Anonymous #19 4d

“boys will be boys” “boys like you if they are mean to you” “what ab his future?”

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Anonymous #8 4d

Okay… so if a girl was SA before, is it okay for me to say, “oh yeah it appears that you let your past experiences justify your perspective on men. Go see a therapist.” Does that seem right to you? Or does something seem a little off about that?

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Anonymous #8 4d

And it’s unfortunate that these experiences have happened to me. You cannot necessarily blame someone for their experiences. Good grief

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Anonymous #24 4d

I would like to see the source. As a man, I think of sex hardly ever. I know that I’ll never have a girlfriend so what’s the point on thinking about it. That’s like saying every 4 minutes women think about how to start an argument

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Anonymous #3 4d

My source is my behavioral neuroscientist professor who has many accolades in the field and has been teaching at my college for years. You can try and do the web search yourself.

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Anonymous #24 4d

Testosterone isn’t the only hormone involved in horniness omg😭😭😭. Biologically women are more inclined to think about sex nonstop for all but 1 week a month. The issue is the difference in social conditioning both genders receive not your hormones

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Anonymous #31 4d

This is biologically and psychologically untrue and has been disproven 100s of times😭. A lot of men just lack self control and aren’t held accountable for sexual deviance as much as women

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Anonymous #11 4d

No, it’s an evolutionary trait. Men compete for women and jump at the opportunity while generally women select the men and are more picky. That’s how good genes are usually passed on. It’s just basic there. How do we “lack self control?” It’s not like I cheat or something.

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Anonymous #5 4d

It’s not ‘simply testosterone’. They make the choices, not their hormones, and saying otherwise ignores the fact that 1. They can control themselves at other times, 2. People taking testosterone supplements can control themselves, and 3. Some men have never lost control

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Anonymous #29 4d

It’s still a matter of self control at that point. I watch media that includes girls killing people and I don’t grab a knife. Also, I have literally never heard of that happening.

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Anonymous #31 4d

This is just blatantly not true. It is 100% lacking self control to force things on someone who doesn’t want them. Also, girls get just as horny.

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Anonymous #32 4d

We have MUCH more test than you dude

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Anonymous #3 4d

My favorite moments with my boyfriend are the ones where he is vulnerable with me. Also, saying that women just bring up insignificant things and that makes it their fault that you can’t express your emotions makes absolutely no sense. Talking about issues makes a safe space for others to open up about their own. You just sound like you hate women.

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Anonymous #3 4d

No one is obligated to date you just because you’re kind. No one is obligated to date you period. Thinking this is why you are single.

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Anonymous #32 4d

I misunderstood the topic of the discussion. I didn’t know the self control was referring to. I stated it further down in the comments

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Anonymous #15 4d

I don’t think they mean they don’t have to have self control but most people say to the woman “what were you wearing” and “did you provoke him?” Like it was the woman’s fault when we most likely just said no. So when men realize that they are placing blame on the victim they think it’s okay.

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Anonymous #5 4d

But isn’t that why they have masterbation? So that men can release all that tension.

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Anonymous #33 4d

Yes. but the thing is masterbation especially if it’s to porn builds addiction to it and it leads to unrealistic expectations ti the real world. Not to mention most women wouldn’t like their partner to watch it. So if you get into a relationship and aren’t getting any action it may lead to reliance on it which may cause boundary breaking. Not all men get addicted to it but it’s possible for sure, I also believe porn makes men objectify women more as well

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Anonymous #3 4d

“So if a girl was SA before, is it okay for me to say, “oh yeah it appears that you let your past experiences justify your perspective on men. Go see a therapist.” Does that seem right to you?” BRO YES. That is exactly what she should do, not only to stop internal sexist bias but also to heal herself. Stop making excuses bro.

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Anonymous #5 4d

it literally sounds like you’re trying to excuse men taking advantage of women saying it’s because of high testosterone levels that’s absolute bullshit

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Anonymous #10 4d

Yes but testosterone and estrogen do very similar things so it’s not like women have a much lower base of “horniness” than men because estrogen performs many of the same tasks in women then testosterone does in men. (Ofc not all the same lol)

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Anonymous #33 4d

So why is it when someone get robbed and they are flaunting their money no is surprised, but if girl talks like h**, dresses like one then go home with guy she never met while flirting with that guy and telling him she want to crazy things and people view her as a h** then why are you surprise ?? Asking for a friend

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Anonymous #19 4d

You obviously have never seen any of Andrew Tate things because he tell dudes to stop beating off, girls to dress like they respect themselves and don’t put yourself in bad situations

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Anonymous #11 4d

Men are women are different and their bodies of both are designed differently so you can’t compare the to on why they act differently and show lack of empathy it’s like rich person telling a homeless person just go get job making 200k it’s super easy why you just can’t get one I don’t get it

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Anonymous #17 4d

For dude it would be like he ovulating 24/7 every dream, thought, is all about sex, games, competition, etc

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Anonymous #38 4d

That sounds awful

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Anonymous #35 4d

No one takes a Lion and wave meat in front of it and say don’t eat it so do it men and be like I’m a have my ass cheeks out, boobs out, talk about sex all day , and then say don’t look at or talk about etc it’s crazy

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Anonymous #1 4d

It sucks

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Anonymous #11 4d

Men are held accountable all the time, if a dude looks at a women the wrong way he get shamed or tossed in jail just on the word of girl. Men are held accountable all the time by society proof, do you see any dudes on campus walking with just underwear or a tee-shirt no but you see a shit tone of women come on Mannn!

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Anonymous #8 4d

But with the mean tone? Sometimes experiences will shape you regardless. Yall think that experience of other people don’t matter to them and that they should be like you instead

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Anonymous #3 4d

You’re the exception and not the rule, like get your T up and work on yourself and make uourself more attractive

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Anonymous #11 4d

So you start this off by saying T is not the only HORmone involved in HORniness, and then you end it all with “the issue is social conditioning…NOT your hormones”. I am not going to argue with you - not sure if you have education or research behind this, but you are wrong and that’s all. You and the 10 others who upvoted unfortunately are just not aware and that’s on you.

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Anonymous #38 4d

Right like I am sorry but you are deciding to isolate yourself..?

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Anonymous #24 4d

You bring up a stigmatized statistic rather than an actual, factual statistic

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Anonymous #24 4d

Provide more context

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Anonymous #38 4d

I am agreeing to what you said to #3 - my bad

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Anonymous #24 4d

No problem

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Anonymous #3 4d

I think you just want an excuse to be a sexist asshole. Not worth responding to anymore. Later.👋

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Anonymous #5 4d

No one’s talking about addiction? We’re talking about sexual deviance. But also testosterone does not cause a sex addiction, please stop this nonsense

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Anonymous #38 4d

“You should go listen to a dude go tell women what they can or can’t do” I’m dead 💀

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Anonymous OP 4d

This sounds hot tbh but I also have a cnc kink

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Anonymous #35 4d

Once again I already said I wasn’t sure what the OP was referring to. Nobody mentioned harassing women or rape so I was going off of lust

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Anonymous #11 4d

I never said it causes a sexual addiction I said it increases sexual desire😭 in fact I have mentioned sexual addiction at all. Since it’s increased in men the desire of sex is wanted more in men even if women ovulate 1 week out of every month😭

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Anonymous #16 4d

Sure there is, some can live and die a whole life never learning self control, who gave you expectations

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Anonymous #45 4d

Hahaha

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Anonymous #38 4d

please learn how to speak with proper grammar before you reply to someone because what the fuck are you even saying

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Anonymous #10 4d

testosterone amount has actually been shown not to affect libido, only the introduction of it. when amounts are spiked a lot it can change but in general stable levels dont affect libido, even if one is higher than another

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Anonymous #48 4d

if you’re saying tht society doesnt judge women nearly as much as men in terms of anything sexual you’re so fucking wrong bruh women r judged to the highest extent for expressing any type of sexual desire bc according to society us women are supposed to be modest & reserved & not "crude sluts/whores"

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Anonymous #8 3d

And women aren’t sexist? Always expecting the man to pay for the date, always doing everything? Always expecting the man to listen to your bs? I think you expect to be treated like a princess because that’s what society tells you. But guess what. You’re not.

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Anonymous #8 3d

It’s funny that you have all these women behind you getting angry and upvoting you and it’s okay for you to get angry and share your opinion, but not okay and not right if I get angry? You’re the reason this stereotype exists…

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Anonymous #35 3d

I agree with that. I think i,addd some stuff and got myself in trouble. I'm meant to say although they have to hide it because of social expectations and the risks of sex for women and although they can certainly get horny, i bet men are generally hornier

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Anonymous OP 3d

Whiteness download the pimple Popper

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Anonymous #19 3d

Trump, pragerU, Tate; it sounds like you have more of a problem with cult leaders and manipulative narcissists than you do with “men, generalized” because falsely conflating “society” with the most corrupt disgusting people on earth isn’t fair to the rest of us who hate those people.

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Anonymous #52 3d

You’re a male, you don’t and will never experience real ovulation. Stop this nonsense

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Anonymous #11 3d

babes i’m trans female to male… 😭 thanks for accidentally affirming my gender i guess !! i did experience ovulation from the ages of 13 to 18. and then i started taking T and it stopped, and i experienced male levels of testosterone. so… yeah.

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Anonymous #52 3d

Lol I misunderstood 😭 but still all I’m hearing is that you were literally a kid who spent years struggling with your gender identity and is now where you want to be. Testosterone is a libido driver in both genders, there’s no biological study that has ever shown that women and men don’t have equal sex drives

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