Anonymous #1 1w

The issue there is not people having sex. The issue is that we stigmatize sex and make it harder to discuss SAFE sex practices. Like wearing condoms, going on prep, etc.

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Anonymous OP 1w

yeahhhh but Included in that is not doing hookup culture. u shouldnt be having sex or putting trust in another you met for less of a week. As someone who has had 3 partners. Its only safe when theres exclusivity there. or run risk of getting an sti or someone lying. so shame it to protect others in choosing better partners.

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Anonymous #1 1w

You will never shame people so much they stop having casual sex. Shaming just discourages people from talking about having casual sex, making it harder for them to get treatment, preventative care, etc. Also, not everybody wants a single, long term partner. Some people just like hooking up. There’s nothing wrong with that as long as you do it safely, which is easier to do when we talk openly about sex without shame.

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Anonymous OP 1w

I disagree in current culture there isnt shaming done. Its encouraged through media and dating apps. I say it worked for me bc my parents always suggested never giving it up easily. But eh ive never had any sti and have been tested. So anecdotal but effective for me

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Anonymous OP 1w

I think people should be more intentional about sex in having fewer partners, don’t rush trust, use protection, and get tested. That’s how you lower STI and pregnancy risk and build better relationships. I’m not for shaming people really but I do think we should promote higher standards and accountability when dating. Hooking up is just gross to me.

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Anonymous #1 1w

It’s fine if it’s gross TO YOU, you’re allowed to have your personal preference. But the fact of the matter is as long as people are doing it safely, there is nothing wrong with hooking up. Again, not everyone wants a long term monogamous relationship. Someone having different needs and wants than you when it comes to sex and romance is not a sign they need “higher standards.”

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Anonymous OP 1w

Didnt say anything abt monogamy. Ramdom strangers is s problem and people will lie

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Anonymous #1 1w

Yes, people do lie, and I agree with you that we should promote honest and accountability. But you can have that in a hookup. The solution is not to eliminate hookups, it’s to talk about them openly and encourage better etiquette and communication.

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Anonymous #3 1w

I won’t deny that some people have an unhealthy dependence on sex, but that doesn’t mean liking sex is the problem, and it certainly doesn’t mean slut shaming is the solution.

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Anonymous OP 1w

hooking up spreads social degeneracy, it should be shamed to uphold social standards

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Anonymous #4 1w

It does not spread “social degeneracy.” Things are not degenerate just because you don’t want to do them yourself. Jesus, it’s not the 60s, there’s nothing wrong with fucking as long as you use protection.

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Anonymous OP 1w

it does tho, if it was virtually non existent in western culture we would see a substantial decrease in kids in the foster system, teen pregnancy and just general unwanted pregnancies, stds etc even protected, we got millions of ppl who report lower self esteem and higher depression. its not healthy to share your body with a random person to the highest physical form

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Anonymous OP 1w

then what do you think the solution is?

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Anonymous #3 1w

I think the solution is to destigmatize sex and talk openly about it so it’s not seen as this dirty, shameful thing, and then people can feel more comfortable seeking help if they do have an unhealthy attachment to it and we can all talk openly about how to have a healthy relationship with sex.

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Anonymous OP 1w

who is saying it’s a dirty, shameful thing?? literally no one. the dirty, shameful thing is hookup culture

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Anonymous #3 1w

Hookup culture is just having lots of casual sex. The thing you’re shaming is having a lot of sex. Unless you can tell me any other part of it you find shameful.

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Anonymous OP 1w

um yeah having sex w a bunch of strangers is pretty dirty and shameful

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Anonymous #3 1w

i think this person believes all people will practice safe sex which is crazy to me. People dont even wash their hands on cruise ships or after using the restroom. People dont even brush their teeth every morning but u believe people will practice it if we informed them more n change perceptions. I think its absurd to have a view point like that.

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What?

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Anonymous #6 1w

Or, counterpoint: Maybe they don’t want somebody long term. Maybe not everybody wants the same thing as you out of a relationship.

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Anonymous #1 1w

I don’t think all people WILL practice safe sex. But I think more people WOULD practice safe sex if we talked more openly about this, yes. And I think shaming everyone who fucks a lot on the assumption that everyone who does so is apparently not using protection at all and just shaming disease is fucking stupid.

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Anonymous OP 1w

*spreading disease, not shaming disease. Typo.

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Anonymous OP 1w

we talk pretty openly about sex now lmfao idk why you’re acting like we don’t. i can’t get on here or my schools fizz without someone talking about sex, wanting sex, liking sex, anything about sex.

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