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i spent some firsts with a guy and got really attached and now he blocked me for seemingly no reason and i don’t know what to do and i can’t move on and im so tired of this and i genuinely can’t take it anymore
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Anonymous 2w

You might not see it now but him leaving is a good thing. He’s showing you early on what a terrible partner he’d be, unreliable and inconsiderate of your feelings.

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Anonymous 2w

Maybe you will find peace in knowing that he is the one screwing himself over. He is doing the opposite of growing. He’s regressing and becoming even weaker than he already was. Also, it’s usually him thinking he’s not good enough for you and that you’ll ultimately leave him, so he rejects himself ahead of time. The more you remember that you don’t want an emotionally unavailable guy, the easier it gets to catch the red flags earlier, the less you’ll fall and you become more attracted to better

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Anonymous 2w

Hey I’ve been there too and you deserve way better. Your future husband would never dare to treat you like this. The best has yet to come

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Anonymous 2w

everyone i start liking just keeps leaving me and im genuinely never going to find someone. i dont wanna be alive if it’s just gonna be this over and over again

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

Agreed, and I’m sorry he did you dirty. But don’t let it be everything. We all went through something like that. You grow from it, hopefully it teaches you to be careful who you enter a relationship with you. Otherwise, you chase the wrong kind of guy and hurt yourself because you chose to go for the wrong kind of guy. Don’t hurt yourself, protect yourself, be careful before you give your heart to someone. Make sure you get to know the guy

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Don’t be over dramatic. It’s not always going to be like this. But the way you are coming across is very dramatic. Are you in your 30’s, just wait, you’ll wish you had the options you have now. YOU have to chose with wisdom, not just because a guy gives you attention. And if he gives you attention, that’s not a reason to give it up. How soon do you let a guy hit it?

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

i didn’t let him have sex with me. he would literally call me beautiful and remark on how i would be an amazing girlfriend how much he loved spending time with me and promised me that he would stay with me once i let him do things. i usually never let anyone get intimate with me like that, but i believed him.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

I’m confused, so you did do things or he stopped coming around after you wouldn’t let him have sex with you?

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

i let him do things other than sex

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

You need to stand on business. Either you don’t let them or you do. If you do let him do things, other than make out, that lets you know he’s only about hitting it. If he respects your boundaries, and he sticks around, you’ll have found your guy. If you don’t stay true, he’ll see how far he can take things. He’s not a good dude. Don’t waste another tear on him. The right guy will come along, but now is a time to gain perspective.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 2w

Better quality, more emotionally available, men

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

I’ve been like him in the past. If a girl lets me get in I will, but ironically, I won’t respect them. If a girl held out, I’d be more invested, shes real, she’s not like the rest. Especially if he’s a good looking guy, hate to admit, it makes those opportunities happen. Don’t give your body out to anyone. If you can, wait for a guy that shows you he’s not like the rest. That doesn’t mean be cold, just know you have control over those things.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

he was kinda ugly so i thought he would be different

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Girl never give an ugly guy a chance. He’s gonna think he can do better and pull other girls if you give him the audacity

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