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wow I got diagnosed adhd and autism really late in life and am realizing it means I’m probably going to end up alone and makes sense considering how hard I’ve tried with how little progress I’ve made. I just often wish I wasn’t here anymore
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Anonymous 1w

hey!!! I have great news for you, unironically: the thing about being autistic is that, while society at large may sometimes feel like a flaming obstacle course specifically designed to destroy people like us, there will Always be other autistic people who understand you, deeply value you, and actively want to spend time with you. you in particular, even!! being autistic means you already have a “community” out there somewhere, it’s just a question of finding the individuals you best mesh with

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Anonymous 1w

Having ADHD and autism does not mean you’ll end up alone. Not only do many neurotypical people fall in love with neurodivergent people, but also there are other people out there with ADHD/Autsim also looking for love. My gf and I both have both and we’ve been happily together for going on 5 years. I’m sorry you feel this way now but things get better.

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Anonymous 1w

Wait maybe I should get tested also I’m having the same issue

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Anonymous 1w

im going through the same. it’s also been difficult to digest how it has unknowingly shaped my history and all the relationships around me (most of which are toxic and depleted me). i want to not be here too more often than not. i don’t see a life for me (or anyone really the way the world is going but no one seems to care enough)

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

obviously easier said than done, but what I’m getting at is, I think the autism itself can actually help to protect you from ending up alone. we may all each clash with *some* other autistic people based on incompatibility, but in the general sense, autistic community is a really powerful source of love & connection

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1w

If suggest doing other research or talking to a professional, having this issue as well doesn’t immediately mean you have autism or adhd

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Yeah I know, I’ve just considered it cause my friends have also said I should get tested

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