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Guys I need some honest feedback here. I’m 22 and a virgin, and I’m scared about what my sex life in the future looks like because of that. Will this fact turn women away? Am I cooked because of my inexperience?
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Anonymous 1d

No not at all babe

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Anonymous 1d

Don’t advertise it but be confident with what you’ve got. Even if it’s not my choice, act as though you’re a virgin by choice. I’m a 24-year-old virgin by choice and I have turned down sex three times. The only thing that will turn a woman away is if you use being a virgin to try and get closer to them.

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Anonymous 1d

No

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Anonymous 1d

I feel like most men think of sex like experience = level up, but I it’s more of a skill tree. You can have a lot of experience and still be trash, or have none and be surprisingly good. It all depends on what your partner likes and how much you are listening to them & their body

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Anonymous 1d

learning from experienced people online makes a world of difference. the best sex i’ve ever had is with a guy that looks up how to do things well in bed. i do the same and people often say i’m the best they’ve ever had. experience only teaches you so much and it’s often way slower than learning on your own and then applying it

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Anonymous 1d

Don’t worry, I’m 24 and I’m still a virgin

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Anonymous 1d

I dont think you’re cooked I’m 21 and if I met a guy virgin, 22 and older (thats maybe attractive and has an outgoing personality) I might wonder to myself “huh I wonder whats wrong” but thats just my own messed up thinking that’s mostly influenced by like societal norms and dude stereotypes After a few seconds I’d rid my head of the question and turn my attention back to you

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

If you’re looking for a hook up though, definitely don’t advertise it, and it would be a turn off for that type of situation

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

How many people you’ve slept with usually doesn’t come up in normal conversation and it’s usually the virgin that exposes themselves by flapping their lips (spoken from experience) As much as girls will deny it, I have discovered that every single instance where I have exposed myself as a virgin the women lose interest. But if they ask the question and you tell them you’re a virgin they do not lose interest

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

ts struck a chord 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

😂

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 1d

Ts so real

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 1d

No we think of it like competing for a job. Any downside is a big downside because Every one looks the same until you actually give them a chance

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Anonymous 1d

I’m not I’m just overanalyzing cuz I know I’m too old for the perfect girl to just come along and like me

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

Honestly this helps a lot, thank you. I see what you’re saying. Basically, if they ask you: just tell them it’s not that deep. If you’re getting into a situation you might not be comfortable with: it’s okay to back out until you feel ready. And obviously don’t just use it to manipulate women but that’s just a given.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1d

See that’s kinda the whole problem for me. If you want to listen to some oversharing, there’s definitely a reason for this situation, and honestly it’s because going through high school and college I kinda just became a worse and worse person over time until eventually nobody wanted to be around me. I know that version of me is not me today but I guess I’m afraid that if I reveal that then it’s going to ruin everything, and I’m not really sure if I’m ready for that possibility

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 1d

Wait you can just do that 💀💀

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

absolutely. i learned how to give great head and handjobs by reading guides and experiences written by gay men. when i get with a girl ill learn how to eat pussy and finger from lesbians beforehand. my fwb looked up how to be good at fingering and he’s unreal at it. with sex you don’t have to reinvent the wheel, you just have to learn from people who already know what they’re doing. i also did this with kissing and i’ve been told im a great kisser. the smartest people know to learn from others!

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 23h

And that’s completely fine, you dont have to be ready Honestly the reason you’re a virgin is nobody’s business just like how who you have sex with is nobody’s business. Dont feel pressured to tell people why you’re a virgin Even in my explanation all I did was wonder but never actually said I would ask, just move forward

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