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Last night the guy I have a crush on did something insanely mean to me. I cried for a while. But then him and me had a long talk and now things feel different
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Anonymous 20h

omg what happened

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 20h

He came up to me and asked me to pour him a drink, so I did, but then he took the glass and he spilled the whiskey all over me down my shirt. So then I was cold, wet, embarrassed, and hurt, and he told me to make myself useful and pour him another one. So I did and then he told me to go the fuck away.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

what an asshole. What what his fuck ass reasoning? Do you need me to pull up and help you jump him?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 20h

His reasoning was just straight up that he doesn’t like me and he thought it’d be funny. But during our talk he did say that he was sorry

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

Yeah lowkey as a dude he’s lying to you he ain’t sorry at fucking all

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 20h

It felt real

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

Feelings are easily manipulated and faked

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

u can have a crush and still ghost someone that is hurting you. He’s not a quality human being wtf

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

Rose tinted glasses you have a crush on him

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 20h

I totally get what you’re saying, but in my specific case I can’t ghost him

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 20h

Maybe you make a point about the rose tinted glasses but he was a little bit kinder than usual when I saw him this morning

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

Literally that’s bc he knows you’re gonna still like him he’s manipulating you take it from someone who has manipulated girls

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 20h

No like I can’t ghost him because we’re in such close proximity to each other

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

Smth is wrong with him and he will only get worse

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 20h

I don’t think he knows I like him. I think he thinks we feel similarly towards each other

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

You live together?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 20h

Like 70% of the time yeah. He comes and goes sometimes for a couple weeks at a time

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

This sounds like a male narcissist. Are you guys exclusive or are you the only one being loyal?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 20h

We’re not a couple. It’s just an unrequited crush. We’ve never been romantic or sexual before. He doesn’t really do girlfriends though, I always see him with a different girl

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 20h

Genuinely what I’m thinking as someone who’s a diagnosed narcissist and has anti social personality disorder

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

I need you to confide in your mother or a sister or auntie. Today in person. You need to watch how him hurting you hurts them. They love you

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 20h

Mom’s dead, no sisters, last I heard my only living aunt was in a German speaking cult in Oregon. Tbh I live a somewhat socially isolated life so that’s a big part of why I use this app

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

What about your dad?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

Is there a power Imbalance in the relationship based on certain differences between you two?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 20h

He was never very kind to me. I was mostly raised by my grandma, who’s dead, and I have two brothers

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 20h

Between me and my crush? Yeah there’s 110% a huge power imbalance tbh

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

He’s taking full advantage. I need you to confide in an old close friend over ft today. Can you promise me girl to girl?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 20h

I wouldn’t say he’s taking advantage because he’s not trying to get anything out of me. He just hates me. I don’t have anyone like that I can FaceTime btw, so I’m sorry but I can’t promise

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

what if he starts beating you or tries to kill you ? I need you to find ways to protect yourself and to plan an escape in emergencies. Have a go bag packed

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 20h

He won’t start beating me and he won’t try to kill me. It’s complicated but I can pretty much guarantee he wouldn’t do that

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

Okay can we dm? Can I give you my number for emergencies? I’m a girl also and I’m j concerned as someone who grew up in an abusive household bc I’ve seen similar behaviors before

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 20h

Yeah we can dm

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 19h

Girl he definitely know that you like him and that why he feel so comfortable to do that. Men know who to play with and who not to play with.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 19h

I’m not saying that most men aren’t like that but tbh I’d be VERY surprised if he knew I was into him because like our circumstances and how we know each other would directly contradict it

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 18h

At the end of the day girl, don’t date him. That just crazy, he doesn’t like you at all.

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