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Confessions 16h
anyone else so traumatized by their parents that you don’t want ur own kids?
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Anonymous 16h

interestingly kind of the opposite- the fact that i was traumatized despite having parents who were in a great position to have kids and provide a great life like even if i do the best anyone can do my kid can get fucked up anyway

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Anonymous 15h

My parents are actually fantastic. But they both had really awful genes. And I have a lot of resentment towards them for birthing me into this world/forcing me into existence. Going off the genes and resentment, I would NEVER want to do that to someone. So yeah if I ever have kids it'll be via adoption or fostering.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 15h

This is real. I see it happening all the time. However my poor experience is actually what makes me want to have kids and adopt. I’m worried about the future. Everyone is depressed and I feel like the world needs more hope. I want to try my shot at raising children to be people who might know how to shine bright even in darkness. Ik it’ll be hard, but I’m gonna still try. I plan on taking parenting classes, and lots of therapy first. I don’t want to unintentionally harm them by following (cont)

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 15h

My families footsteps. I want to try find someone I trust and adore completely who won’t think my hopes for children are stupid. I’d like them to also have the same level of passion, initiative, and drive to parent. Idk if I’ll find someone like that who isn’t religious tho lol. Honestly, I just want to be the mother I never had but always dreamed of as a child. I think I can if I do the research and mentally prepare.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 15h

Fortunately, as of right now I’m on track with my plan to make 6 figures before 30 and still have a good work-life balance. So if I’m fortunate I might still be able to pay for assistance or camps if I feel too overwhelmed. Most importantly I’m making sure I have a family therapist and prioritizing mental health. That’s not even something I’m not even negotiating fr.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 15h

This is the exact reason why I’m doing IVF actually. Everyone thinks it’s just so I can make sure my first born is a girl (ngl that’s partly true lol) but it’s also because I don’t want to do that to a child

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 14h

What genes?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14h

I can’t answer for #3, but I know there are lots of genetic mutations that lead to things like increased cancer risks, birth defects , sickle cell, diabetes, eczema, and a whole plethora of other things

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 14h

Schizophrenia and addiction and shit on my mom's side, Bipolar and addiction and shit on my dad's side

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 14h

Hell yeah!!! That's freaking awesome :) I'd also want a girl lol

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