Anonymous #1 16w

Yeahh I saw that 😅

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fat people can be healthy too

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btw, i wonder what happened to that reply thread you started earlier?

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not sure i follow. you just seemed awfully confident in everything you were saying at the time, but then you deleted it all like you were embarrassed

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understandable. take care

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Anonymous #6 16w

I met my ex when we argued over a yikyak and we were besties after so maybe that can be us 🥰🥰🥰🥰

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Anonymous #12 16w

I have a naturally hourglass shape and unless I’m wearing tight uncomfortable clothing everyday, I always look “bigger”

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Anonymous #12 16w

See I also have a naturally hourglass shape and struggle at times with how I look

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Anonymous #13 16w

OP wasn’t just talking about individual preferences though, he was talking about guys who try to change the bodies of women they’re already dating (“why guys want their gfs to be thinner”). cause that’s disrespectful & controlling behavior

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Anonymous #8 16w

The significant other shouldn’t have any say about losing weight to the other especially if they are happy as they are, thats very selfish of them.

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Anonymous #6 16w

Like I guess I’m “skinny fat” so my lower abdomen just get in the way of my happiness

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Anonymous #6 16w

For me it was my larger bust and my hips/ass. I also have broad looking shoulders. Wearing tight clothing makes me look like I’m trying to dress inappropriately and wearing more comfortable clothing makes me look heavy to the point I get shamed. I can’t win.

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Anonymous #12 16w

Girl I’m so sorry! I also have a larger bust and when I turn side ways I hate! You just have to find people that do care and realize that you’re not unhealthy (if you are staying healthy generally). It’s not your fault! You’re just doing your best! And that’s all you can do. People suck ass!

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Anonymous #6 16w

But don’t starve yourself because that’s not sustainable or healthy!

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Anonymous #13 16w

yeah, sounds like we’re on the same page then 👍

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Anonymous #12 16w

real, i think some people are so busy loathing perceived fatness that they forget to even consider basic anatomical factors like skeletal structure, variations in weight distribution & muscle tone, longterm health issues that are visible and not improved by weight loss etc

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Anonymous #8 16w

like you were saying, whether or not someone gets shamed for their weight / size is so often dependent on specific body zones. like two women can wear the same size in clothes and weigh the same, but if one of them carries more fat in her face, arms & belly as opposed to her hips & thighs, she’s the one to get harassed over it while the other might not be considered “fat” at all

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Anonymous #15 16w

no, not true—anyone who’s seen a decent number of Renaissance-era paintings can tell you confidently that thinness has not always been the beauty standard for women. and that’s not even ancient history, we’re talking less than 500 years ago

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Anonymous #15 16w

this is also a very culturally-sheltered belief on your part. to this day there are African cultures in which heavier women are considered more attractive

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Anonymous #8 16w

Im talking about western societies. again to each their own. If you like em big you can have em

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Anonymous #15 16w

associating thinness with good health & hygiene by default doesn’t really make sense either. the ultra-skinny look that was popular in the 2000s is called “heroin chic” for a reason

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Anonymous #8 16w

I am not talking about skin and bones here. There is a clear line between a healthy thin look and an anorexic look.

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Anonymous #15 16w

the Renaissance refers to a cultural moment within Europe specifically, my dude. so no, even if we narrow it down to “western societies”, what you said about thinness “always being [viewed as] more attractive throughout time” is objectively false

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Anonymous #15 16w

okay. “typically people who take care of their bodies are thinner” is what you said, so that’s what i replied to

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Anonymous #16 16w

It is their business though if they truly mean it they don’t want their gfs to get seriously sick babes but yeah you can be healthy with a bit of squish ofc

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Anonymous #15 16w

Bro has never seen a Venus figurine. And look, attraction is fine, but we know it’s not just about that. Generally people who like tall women aren’t harassing short women into getting heightening surgeries. Or women who like muscular men usually don’t harass skinny men for not working out enough. The social idea of thinness we promote is not a healthy level of thinness. Thinness doesn’t equal health and it doesn’t equal athleticism either. We give people eating disorders and anorexia.

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Anonymous #6 16w

Yeah like the health thing is relevant if it is a partner. I’m more speaking to the “harassing random strangers about their health” stuff. Like we don’t harass people who ride motorcycles. We don’t judge paralyzed people on their physical therapy regimens. We don’t publicly shame people who get a tan because that’s a cancer risk. So even if a stranger’s weight is dangerous to their health it’s not our business to comment on it. We don’t know what they are going through.

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Anonymous #16 16w

highly recommend not wasting your time on #6, i tried to talk some sense into him re: the weight vs health thing earlier today and he started crytyping incoherently, called me a stupid bitch, tried to brag to me about his GPA and school as well as how his entire family is (allegedly) medical professionals, then shame-deleted the whole reply chain

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Anonymous #1 16w

I don’t judge someone for their weight, at least till it gets to a point where is becomes dangerous for them and could actually kill them or something 🤷‍♂️

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Anonymous #6 16w

“You can die in bed just a easily as you can die on the battle field” was a line a once ready a soldiers letter gone during WW II

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Anonymous #17 16w

Ok?

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Anonymous #6 16w

If this is a fact competition about world war 2 I can give you plenty! And that was probably a toxic way of forcing men to go into war because in WW1 they continuously harassed men and bullied them into the army

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Anonymous #6 16w

Maybe don’t use a toxic system as an argument

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Anonymous #6 16w

Don’t fight a history major post grad whose focus is WW2

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Anonymous #6 16w

I’m a biologist and astronomer lol, not a historian lol. It was just a line from a soldiers letter/journal I distinctly remember reading in the World War II history museum in DC

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Anonymous #17 16w

Were you just using this to say it because it reminded you of it?

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Anonymous #6 16w

Because if you were using it as a point of reference you need to look into it rather than just saying it

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Anonymous #6 16w

It’s just a piece of advice that has stuck with me my whole life 🙄. Yes it’s sad that it came from a World War II soldier’s journal. My point was, not where it came from, but what it means, what it represents

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Anonymous #17 16w

Do you know what it was used for historically babes? 🙂 or where he got the idea for it?

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Anonymous #6 16w

Nope 🤷‍♂️. It’s just a line that stuck with me my whole life 😭.

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Anonymous #17 16w

Then just don’t use it as a point of argument but i respect because without its context i bet it’s great

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Anonymous #6 16w

You just have to be careful

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Anonymous #6 16w

Fair enough. I was just trying to cite my references so someone else could find it if they were included to do so 🤷‍♂️

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