Anonymous seafoam_headphone87 2w

I think our society needs way less cowards.

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Anonymous OP 2w

I can be rude instead and tell people to their face that they are butt ugly catfishes if that is preferred.

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Anonymous seafoam_headphone87 2w

actually i think “no” is ok. it kinda sounds like u dont wanna admit that you are too afraid to turn people down so ur making this stawman where the alternative is to be a dick. instead of being a mean dick or a cowardly dick u could just be like a normal person. also none of these takes are hot

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Anonymous #2 2w

no but with the way people like the above person act they seem to be. because why else is the way to act and behave in society today to be a dick or a coward rather than to have a civilized normal conversation like a human being. or to just, idk, be polite.

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Anonymous seafoam_headphone87 2w

I think ghosting is a lot worse because the lack of closure makes your brain and body fester in all of the possible negative things about yourself. Very damaging. Straight up rejection gives the closure and the shorter lasting.

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Anonymous seafoam_headphone87 2w

And the pain* is shorter lasting

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Anonymous #6 2w

Kinda real though tbh

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Anonymous #6 2w

What this guy said

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Anonymous #5 2w

Ratio

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Anonymous seafoam_headphone87 2w

Ratio

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I literally couldn’t care if anyone walked out of my life with no explanation. I haven’t been home in 10 years, I don’t get attached to anyone or anything. I’m sorry if for some reason someone latches on but I’m very open that I don’t want anything serious.

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Anonymous seafoam_headphone87 2w

so its the other person’s problem for getting attached? you feel nothing about that?

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Anonymous seafoam_headphone87 2w

or maybe instead of calling somebody butt ugly, just tell them that they aren’t interested in them? like “im sorry im just not interested” or something

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Anonymous OP 2w

Yes. If I told you I’m looking for a fuck buddy and you decide to make a thing out of it that’s on you. I’m not required to acknowledge your feelings. I feel a little bad but like you did that shit to yourself and I’m not gonna beat myself up over it.

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Anonymous seafoam_headphone87 2w

do you not see why that makes you an unkind kind of shitty human being tho?

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Anonymous seafoam_headphone87 2w

like you’re blaming people for having feelings for you instead of appreciating the fact that they may have liked you to begin with.

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Anonymous #8 2w

I don’t think this comment ate in the way you intended for it to. it’s not ghosting someone if you tell them what they did made you uncomfortable and that you need space and you never talk to them again. it’s not ghosting in the way we’re talking about if the person’s life is in jeopardy or if their emotional well-being is in jeopardy. but I think people need to be a lot less liberal with cutting things off with no explanation. because just because someone is a bad person doesn’t mean a convo

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Anonymous #8 2w

about what they did wrong and how they could do better (even just over text) is something that we can’t give them as human beings. just because something is hard to do, doesn’t mean that it’s something we should avoid doing. especially not for the sake of humanity and society prospering.

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Anonymous OP 2w

Ok girl good for u

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Anonymous #8 2w

your ambivalence about this makes me think that something happened where you tried to tell someone something and you saw the result of them not being a good human being and it traumatized you. no? because just because I’m saying we have a responsibility to tell people things doesn’t mean that other people don’t also have a responsibility to react maturely and rationally about what we’re saying. and if they can’t, that’s when they get blocked.

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Anonymous #8 2w

also a lot of people that we think are bad people have a lot of shit going on. and that doesn’t make it ok for them to be bad people. but is socially isolating them and pushing them further down a bad path really the best response? like yes redeemable people will do the work on themselves regardless, but there are plenty of ways to protect our peace that don’t include causing more harm through ghosting. it’s careless and it causes more issues, whereas simply telling people “hey this is what you

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Anonymous #8 2w

did wrong, you should work on that because now I can’t be in your life anymore.” pushes them to reflect and a lot of people start growth when they’re forced to sit with themselves and the consequences of their actions.

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Anonymous #4 2w

what if i don't wanna talk to them anymore

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Anonymous #9 2w

then you should probably just tell them and be done with it after that one convo.

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Anonymous OP 2w

i mean you could do that, or you could just not

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Anonymous #9 2w

that’s some pussy ass irresponsible shit.

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Anonymous OP 2w

i mean if you think that's pussy that's your opinion, how the fuck is that irresponsible tho 😂

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Anonymous #9 2w

because it’s embarrassing for you as a human being, who has a responsibility to communicate with another human being you wanted to hookup with or have a friendship with or a relationship of any kind with, to completely leave it hanging and to not respond or give another human being the time of day.

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Anonymous OP 2w

that would explain why u think it's irresponsible. no human being has a "responsibility" to talk to someone they do not wish to talk to 🤷‍♂️. it's not an obligation, it's a personal choice. and nothing is embarrassing if you aren't embarrassed by it, to me it sounds like you're just upset because someone didn't wanna talk to you.

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Anonymous #9 2w

actually no. I’m very concerned about where society is going that human beings like you were raised so wrong that you don’t see why something like that is unnecessary hurt and pain you are causing other people that feels senseless. it’s something people can’t make sense of because they have no context. I’m tired of, as someone training to be a psychologist, seeing people irrevocably hurt by this kind of action

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Anonymous OP 2w

i've been ghosted, it's not that big of a deal. someone dosent want to talk to me, that's fine, they can live their life and i'll live mine 🤷‍♂️. there's other people to talk to. i know you can't rely on others for your happiness and mental stability, because i was raised right. living with the mindset that you're responsible for someone else's happiness or well being is just gonna stress you out, and you'll have expectations of other people that will never be met.

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Anonymous #9 2w

If you read my comment it says "unless youre worried for your safety" and you asked "what if I don't wanna talk to them anymore" so that doesn't fit under that unless...so shut up with your what about me ism

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Anonymous #4 2w

I don't agree with you, hence the alternate point of view lol. I'm presenting a different scenario.

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Anonymous #6 2w

Right back at you! 🔄

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Anonymous #9 2w

shit u were right that is a lot

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