Anonymous #1 22h

awee i’m so glad 🥹

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Anonymous #2 22h

no for real! its helped me be nicer to myself too

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you gotta rewire that thinking or you’ll be stuck there forever bud

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beauty is subjective, if you believe you’re ugly you’ll always believe you’re ugly, gotta fix that mindset

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Anonymous #4 21h

it took some time but you got this 🙂‍↕️

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Anonymous #5 21h

mindset twin, rewire it

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Anonymous OP 21h

Nah, it’s something I’ve had for years. I’ve been told I sound fine, but i just cannot hear myself. I physically cringe when i do

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Anonymous #5 21h

that’s why they said rewire it, it takes time but if you put in the effort it does get better

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Anonymous #2 21h

exactly, seek/expect negativity and you draw it in. seek/expect positivity and you draw it in. ofc it’s not overnight or perfect or all the time, but it really does help. only person holding you back is you

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Anonymous OP 21h

I get what yall are saying, but it’s one of those things I’ve accepted. Do i hate myself? Hell nah. I just cringe over how I sound. But thanks for the words OP and #2!

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Anonymous #5 21h

i can understand that, i just hope one day you can learn to maybe appreciate what you have! it’s nice that you have a voice and that you’re even able to listen to it

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Anonymous OP 21h

Ironically, i enjoy talking the most. I actually prefer talking on the phone than texting lol. That’s probably one of my “weirder” qualities

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Anonymous #7 20h

bruh why😭 it’s just a photo

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Anonymous #8 18h

awe i love that i’m not the only one 🥹

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Anonymous OP 17h

I can tell you’ve never been insecure

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Anonymous #9 17h

this whole post was build on having insecurities, isn’t that kinda obvious? but it really is just a photo that you keep to yourself. you can delete it, share it, whatever you want. you don’t even have to look at it until you’re ready... we all have different levels of insecurity sure, and maybe i haven’t reached one where id kms over a photo, but you gotta work on that mindset

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Anonymous #9 17h

and to add onto my last comment, things that might be good for you doesn’t always feel like they’re good. it might suck the first, 10 or so times you do it. its just about reshaping how you visualize yourself and how you approach your insecurities on a more positive note. negative = negative and positive = positive because yes it really is that straightforward at the end of the day

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Anonymous OP 17h

Making a post about insecurity then not being understanding when people are more insecure than you is unique

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Anonymous #9 17h

and you not understanding this post and claiming ive never been insecure is quite ignorant, no wonder you’re so insecure you’re just negative. no one else is responsible for how you feel about yourself besides you man. only you can change it, so why not try? you have every power to do so

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Anonymous OP 16h

Maybe you haven’t considered the fact that insecurity doesn’t happen in isolation and some people are insecure because they aren’t attractive. And most people would think that. Telling people to focus even more on their looks doesn’t work for everyone because at the end of the day people are still gonna treat ugly people worse that attractive people.

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Anonymous #9 16h

“and most people would think that” that’s exactly your issue! attractiveness is a HUGE scale and what’s important is finding YOURSELF attractive. ofc 1 photo on the first time ain’t gonna work and sure might even make you feel bad. and if this thing doesn’t work for you at all, then it wasn’t meant for you and you can move on ez pz. but maybe you’ll realize that, damn maybe my hair didn’t actually look that bad that one day. then it’s finally a climb up instead of one that’s down

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Anonymous OP 16h

I just really think you missed the mark for a lot of people. Being treated shitty by the public because of what you look like doesn’t get fixed for many people by just reflecting on how they look. Really it’s more effective to not prioritize looks at all.

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Anonymous OP 16h

You have such an individualistic mindset. People do not exist in isolation, if everyone keeps re affirming what you already know about yourself it does no good to dwell on that aspect of yourself, especially when everyone has more to offer than looks.

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Anonymous #9 16h

right so your plan is to just ignore the “problem” instead of ignoring the people… cuz that’s worked out so well, right? 🫤 ofc the world is going to leave SOME type of impact, but ultimately it’s up to people to make up their own mind about how things make them feel and how they react to it

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Anonymous OP 16h

Are you dense on purpose? I’m saying that for some people being unattractive is a fact of life and not an opinion they just came up with. You still ignore people’s feelings but you can recontextualize it. Instead of “I’m so ugly everyone is better than me.” Thinking “most people don’t think I am attractive, and that is their loss, because I have much more to offer than looks can buy”

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Anonymous OP 16h

Are you too vain to consider that prioritizing attractiveness isn’t mandatory?

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Anonymous #9 16h

i think you’re completely missing my point and that’s okay but i’m done arguing with someone who refuses to understand 🫤 maybe take some time to consider something else and you’ll see what i mean

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Anonymous #9 16h

Okay stop arguing. OP is most likely a conventional attractive person and their insecurities is probably from internal factors and not necessarily how people perceive them or what people have said to them. Which is very different from being insecure from being unconventionally attractive and your insecurities stemming from what people have said to you. Not condemning OP btw, I’m js saying different types of insecurities would obviously be navigated differently.

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Anonymous OP 16h

I used to think exactly what you think and it got me absolutely nowhere, except right back in front of the mirror picking apart the way I look and making myself feel worse. You just aren’t being receptive to the fact that your advice will actually make things worse for many people

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Anonymous #7 16h

When you’re insecure cause you KNOW that’s by societal’s standard you’re ugly, it’s hard to js tell yourself that you’re attractive and you find yourself attractive. A lot of the time what that’ll look like for most unconventionally attractive people is making peace with the fact that you’re not the standard and that’s okay. But telling people to js convince themselves that their attractive only works if you actually are (by societal’s standards)

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Anonymous #7 16h

This is exactly my point. But If even one person sees this conversation and it makes them think about things differently then that is good, so I’ll argue if I want to actually.

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