Anonymous OP 4d

😭I wish I had this ima start a new where my kids have something like this

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Anonymous #1 4d

All they said was they can’t relate to it not saying ppl are overreacting or whatever. They are just appreciating what they have.

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Anonymous #2 4d

Ignorance is bliss

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Anonymous #1 4d

😭I actively hate being home what do u mean ignorance is bliss? My fam whole personality is their religion and I feel so othered that I’m struggling to fake a smile everyday. I’m not going to keep living my life like this

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Anonymous #3 4d

I mean if ur bitter ur gonna feel worse. I found this post enduring

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Anonymous #2 4d

endearing, you mean? okay. hot take perhaps but I would say it’s fair & normal to feel bitter about having been abused by your family

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Anonymous #3 4d

Being bitter to other people who has a stable family isn’t ok. People who are privileged in this way really opens my eyes to the type of ‘love’ I’m given.

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Anonymous #3 4d

Also ur right I did say the wrong one I meant endearing

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Anonymous #2 4d

? I’m not being bitter “to” anyone, I’m glad OP’s family is good to them. that’s the way it’s supposed to be I’m saying that for many of us who have reason to be bitter about our family life and are venting about that, it makes us feel worse to be reacted to with “can’t relate 🤷”. to many of us, that wording registers as dismissive and flippant. you don’t have to feel the same, but you also don’t have to dismiss people for feeling that way

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Anonymous #3 4d

I never said u are bitter. This post isn’t in direct response to anyone. Just appreciating they don’t have to go thru that. I liked the post b/c it reminds me of the situation im in isn’t normal and I shouldn’t treat it as normal.

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Anonymous #3 4d

It’s a reminder to me that I shouldn’t settle what I have even tho I love my family I can’t be around them. This makes me feel better about my decision of trying to move to a different state away from them.

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Anonymous #2 4d

well no, when you said “being bitter to other people who has a stable family isn’t ok”, you were replying directly to my comment. if you weren’t trying to say that I was being bitter towards OP, it would make zero sense to have said that as a response to me

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Anonymous #2 4d

you’re allowed to like the post, and I’m glad you feel encouraged not to settle. none of that contradicts what I said though, so feel free to comment all of that separately rather than trying to argue with my feelings

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Anonymous #3 4d

😭I wasn’t saying u are bitter towards op I was just saying for the ones who u said feel worse after seeing this post maybe bitter to hear someone having a stable family. I wasn’t calling specifically bitter. Feeling bitter towards others because they said they have a good family isn’t ok. It was a general statement not specifically directed towards u but could be directed towards u if u feel this way.

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Anonymous #2 4d

I didn’t say anything about people being bitter towards OP either though…? I said that seeing this post feels bad, and when you felt the need to challenge that, I said it was normal to feel bitter in a general sense over not having a loving family for future reference, if you’re gonna yap to yourself about unrelated subjects, just don’t post it as a reply to what someone else said

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Anonymous #3 4d

Why did this post make u feel worse?

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Anonymous #2 4d

in summary: “if ur bitter ur gonna feel worse” was pointless to respond to me with—because yes, obviously some people with toxic families feel bitter about it, and that’s normal. but that’s not the same as feeling bitter *towards OP* about it, meaning your follow-up reply about “being bitter to other people who has a stable family” was also irrelevant to what I said, and thus pointless to respond to my comment with it’s that simple. hope this clears some things up for you

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Anonymous #2 4d

whoa, how many times do you need me to repeat myself before you stop trying to argue with me? like I said: because the wording registers as dismissive and flippant. when you’re having a bad time and someone says “can’t relate!”, that’s frustrating. in general. if you don’t understand that implicitly, you’re bad at communicating

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Anonymous #3 4d

When I said if ur bitter I’m not talking about the situation. I am talking about towards others if this post made u feel worse than maybe ur bitter towards someone appreciating what they have. I said being bitter is not ok b/c that shouldn’t be normal ofc neither is having a toxic family.

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Anonymous #2 4d

a more compassionate way to have expressed a sentiment along the lines of OP’s would have been something like “I feel awful for all the people who dread spending the holidays with family”, “it must be rough to not be able to enjoy spending the holidays with family” etc rather than simply “can’t relate”. word choice matters a lot when using a text-based medium

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Anonymous #2 4d

holy shit, you really aren’t processing a single word I’m saying no matter how many different ways I explain it 😭 just talking yourself in circles for no reason, this is worse than talking to a wall

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Anonymous #2 4d

I’m gonna stop responding now because you haven’t been engaging in good faith with what I’ve been saying. please work on your communication skills!

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Anonymous #3 4d

😭bro I was gonna say I agree there are better ways to saying it. U didn’t even give me a chance to respond to the last thing I read.

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Anonymous #3 4d

I shouldn’t have said if ur bitter. I meant that in regards to myself and I shouldn’t have. When I first looked at the post I pretty upset but I had to look at myself as to why I was upset and realized it was because of bitterness. I shouldn’t have assumed that was everyone as well. I had to internalize that this is an opportunity for me to know that I could do better for myself. I apologize

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Anonymous #2 4d

perhaps you ought to have simply acknowledged that part when I first said it, i.e. over an hour ago, rather than wasting so much of my time trying to argue with things I didn’t say. good luck out there

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Anonymous #3 4d

😭I noticed one of my problems that I have is arguing for no reason. I don’t have much of a voice at home and so I take it out on ppl on the internet. I’m trying to work on it and reflect on myself. It’s not very simple and I need time to process stuff.

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Anonymous #2 4d

okay. I do appreciate you acknowledging that and taking responsibility for it, that just doesn’t make things any less frustrating for the person you’re taking it out on

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Anonymous #3 4d

I understand that which is why I need to take responsibility for my actions and decrease doing it to completely stopping. I apologize again for making things frustrating for u

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Anonymous #2 4d

thank you.

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Anonymous #1 4d

I don’t know everyone’s family situation, but I do know that I’ve heard my friends venting about how insufferable they find their families for over a week now and it’s made me realize for the first time that I’ve taken my situation for granted.

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