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Coming to terms with having a savior complex, like wdym I attract those who have been hurt and I can’t help but want to take care of them?
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Anonymous 18h

I’m like the opposite. Me getting hurt and chasing people away gives me a morally superior complex because I leave when people do bad shit

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 17h

That’s not the opposite, that’s not even related

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17h

How so? I’m interested in a debate

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 17h

You’re saying you leave when people do bad things to you. I said that I tend to date people who have had bad things done to them.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17h

Oooooh I see. Girl ur cooked 😭. I am someone at the other end of the spectrum. You shouldn’t date them untill they are healed. They’re not gonna trust you and think you’re going to end up like the people that hurted them.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 17h

That’s the problem, I’m the person that they do end up trusting because I’m like, a decent human being, and I know how to handle almost any mental health issue someone can have, but it always ends up with me getting hurt in the end

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17h

Leave them alone. You are not responsible to fix anyone. Let the heal on their own also focus on yourself as well and find a partner that’s mentally stable and healed from their past. They need to figure out self worth so that you can prevent yourself from getting hurt.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 17h

Yeah unfortunately I fear I’m gonna have to get hurt a few more times. Seeing so many people in my past be healed by how I treated them brings me joy that far outweighs the pain that it brings me

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17h

Genuinely don’t hurt yourself by continue dating these people if you know things are going to end. The savior complex you have it’s what’s hurting you in the end. I can’t control what you do but I’m glad at least you find joy in helping out other people. But don’t restrain yourself to the point where it costs you

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 17h

All it costs me is momentary pain for the chance at someone else’s lasting happiness

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