
1. Young and in love first relationship you aren’t thinking “oh what if they show this to other people?” There is a blind trust that goes into your relationship when you love them. 2. Coercion into filming or feeling guilty for not wanting to, the type of people to share intimate photos & keep them after you break up are the same people who will pressure you into sending them. 3. What if you’ve been with them for years? Or you’re married or engaged? At what point is it reasonable to fully trust?
You can warn teens away from things like filming with their partners, but when you come in saying “or just don’t film anything in the first place” directed at the people who get their videos shared and not the ones doing the sharing when this posts is directly about the people holding onto videos of their exes and sharing them, that IS victim blaming because it’s changing the topic from “if you do this, you’re bad” to “well *other* shouldn’t have done this in the first place”
Long distance relationships especially during college for a few months a year is very normal and a lot of people feel more comfortable with seeing them and/or their partner in a video or photo more than their partner watching pornography which they are much much more likely to do than not. So it’s not that strange. Also a kink thing for some people