Anonymous #2 1w

I mean that's your prerogative I'm just saying in my experience no one cares. I actually would take issue if they did care though because there's at least 3 other bodily fluids involved, so why does this one in particular make me untouchable?

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Anonymous OP 1w

idk it’s blood i think a lot of people prefer to avoid the sight of blood and it makes them uncomfortable like i don’t really like being covered in blood either tbh i think it’s just different ppl different boundaries

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Anonymous #2 1w

Idk I just think sex is a gross thing altogether and you have to shower after anyways so it's not like you're just randomly being bled on lol. I imagine most people are pretty grossed out by the idea of being spat on and yet there's a lot of spit involved in sex lol

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Anonymous OP 1w

i think it’s not because it’s a fluid or messy it’s because it’s blood specifically. i think blood is prolly the bodily fluid that most often makes people uncomfortable like a lot of people get uncomfortable at the sight of blood i don’t think i’ve heard of people getting uncomfortable at the sight of saliva

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Anonymous #2 1w

I think saliva is disgusting actually

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Anonymous OP 1w

when i say uncomfortable like i mean blood is the bodily fluid associated with like pain and violence and some peoples brains just tick in a way where when they see it they get uneasy-not disgusted exactly but i think the discomfort can be based in fear

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Anonymous #2 1w

that’s why like personally i feel it would be unfair for me to expect someone to be comfortable with blood to that extent

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Anonymous #2 1w

Idk I just think most men would be okay with being a girls first time and wouldn't care if you bled but the moment it's blood that's actually not associated with injury it's an issue? That's my qualm. Like it's not associated with pain and violence, it's a period

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Anonymous OP 1w

fax men being grossed out about the concept of the period yea i get that however maybe it’s just my own experience of being uncomfortable with blood i can understand that barrier for some people

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Anonymous #2 1w

to be fair tho it does depend how the boundary is communicated because if it’s “ewwwww gross you’re on your period i’m not touching that 🤢🤢🤢” then yea grow tf up lmao

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Anonymous #2 1w

I also just feel like get over it lol like what if we end up married with kids? You want me to take you seriously when you can't even do something we both enjoy because a certain bodily fluid is involved? What happens if we have a baby who has diarrhea and it gets everywhere or a toddler who throws up on the floor lol like what am I expected to do it all by myself because you think it's gross? it's just a signaling for down the line what you can expect from them as a parent and partner

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Anonymous OP 1w

i feel like ur not interacting with what i said about blood specifically being a common bodily fluid that makes people uncomfortable like if he’s uncomfortable with blood in general in other contexts too i feel like “get over it” would be kinda dismissive no? especially if he wouldn’t enjoy it due to discomfort and you want him to do it anyway

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Anonymous #2 1w

Yes get over it, your kids will bleed too. He doesn't have to do anything, we would be done bc it's an inherent compatibility issue. I think as a grown man if you can engage in acts that could lead to making a baby, you should be able to deal with this stuff. Are you gonna abandon me in the delivery room? Are you gonna freak out when your daughter gets her first period because she bled on the couch? If you're so averse, be with someone who will coddle you bc I won't

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Anonymous OP 1w

at that point yea i suppose for you it’s just a requirement/boundary which sure you’re allowed to have whatever preferences you want

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