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Confessions 4w
Yall men will not gaslight me into thinking having wandering eyes is normal & we should put up with it. It’s not normal to blatantly check out other women in front of your girlfriend. It’s gross, lustful behaviour that deteriorates the relationship 🤷‍♀️
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Anonymous 4w

I think it’s normal…. IF the person isn’t that committed to you OR if they don’t care enough about respecting your boundaries. I’d say it’s disrespectful though. What you see is what is though. The question is, can you even change the person? Or is it better to move away?

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Anonymous 4w

An you legitimately say that if a drop dead gorgeous man walked by that you wouldn’t look him up and down tho? Honestly.. like if a ryan reynolds or a brad pitt walked by while you and your man were walking down the street, you 10000% would not give him a eyeball from head to toe??

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Anonymous 4w

It’s normal for the urge. It takes self-control / morality not to.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

You’re talking about a celebrity, any man or woman would stare. I’m talking about normal everyday people. I’ve definitely seen attractive guys while out with a boyfriend, but I have enough restraint & respect to not break my neck to look at them. It’s really not that hard. But somehow impossible for you guys

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

I personally think it’s better to leave. I’ve been on both ends where a husband/bf couldn’t stop looking at me & had my own bf’s do the same. It’s embarrassing. It really erodes trust & builds insecurity. If you’re willing to check out someone else blatantly while I’m right next to you, what would you do behind my back. Not worth the risk

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

But you’re not comfortable enough with them to jokingly or confidently say ‘that’s a good looking human’ while having full confidence that your significant other won’t get jealous as you would if he/she were to say same compliment? That fringes on shallowness. If you’re happy and comfortable with who you’re with then why should it matter if they glace or notice another good looking human. Sure i understand gawking but just noticing?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

Mutually appreciating someone’s attractiveness is one thing. But if your partner can’t help themselves to keep looking at someone while next to you, that’s another thing. When did I say a stare is bad? Most times it’s not just a stare. Men will literally break their necks to look at you or simply can’t keep their eyes off you/someone else. That’s what I’m talking about which isn’t normal.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

You think this is some kinda gotcha moment but no, I have not and would not. I have been in a 4 year relationship and I have never checked out another man because I have respect and morals

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