Chronic Illness on Sidechat | This but being told I’m “unreliable” when it comes to making plans. Like you think I want to wake up and have to guess if I’ll feel well enough to even walk to the bathroom?

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Chronic Illness 1w

This but being told I’m “unreliable” when it comes to making plans. Like you think I want to wake up and have to guess if I’ll feel well enough to even walk to the bathroom?

Chronic Illness 1w

Had to pass on a “night on the town” bc I don’t feel good & a friend responded with “you never feel good”…well yes I’ve been out of school & work for a year, do you think it’s been for fun?

Anonymous 1w

oooooh I absolutely cannot stand that shit… I’ve reached a point where I can really only be friends with folks who I can trust to be [genuinely! not just surface-level!] easygoing & compassionate with me about needing to delay or cancel plans. had one too many people call me “flakey” just cause they were inconvenienced by my chronic pain & mobility limitations, at some point I needed to come to terms with lack of patience being a dealbreaker for me

Anonymous

#1 1w

(sorry to be long-winded, but: on the bright side, treating that as a boundary has led me to gravitating more towards close relationships with other chronically ill & disabled people, which has been an extraordinarily positive thing overall 💖)

Anonymous

#1 1w

That’s awesome! It definitely makes it harder to make friends (as if making friends as an adult while being healthy isn’t hard enough!).