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My mom told me I’m not “dating to marry” and that I should just go have fun and date whoever like um… not j wanna do this once and I wanna do it right??? I’m not going to be miserable for the rest of my life hello
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Anonymous 6w

How can you get it right if you meet the best person but dont even know how to date or what a comfortable relationship looks like? Why wouldnt you want to share love with more people?

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Anonymous 6w

why are you acting like shes sabotaging you and saying something crazy? are you 14? 13? that is the only age i can imagine a girl having this kind of inexperienced take.

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Anonymous 6w

i can’t even date period. how would i do it for fun 😂😂

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Anonymous 6w

I don’t understand why people are misunderstanding you and coming at you so aggressively

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Anonymous 6w

Bro same I mean obviously I’m not gonna be with someone that is toxic and sucks, but the goal is to not have to hop around and go through the whole process again and again

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Anonymous 6w

I was not dating with the intention of getting married, but my first serious relationship I convinced myself was my soulmate. It took me years to realize how miserable I was and now that I’ve recently started dating again, I’m realizing how horrible he was.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 6w

I’m 19 😭 she’s not sabotaging me but like there’s some things I value/don’t like. Like I won’t date smokers due to personal health issues that get worse when smokers are around and she said it doesn’t matter bc values are not that important when you’re just dating

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Anonymous 6w

I know I’m not going to marry the first person I date. I meant like I want to marry one person and do it right yk? I just don’t want to be miserable like I’ve seen people in my personal circle be 😔

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 6w

I dont want to waste my time or the time of other people. I guess I phrased it wrong? My mom is saying like certain values like me not wanting to date conservatives or people that smoke are not important bc im just dating to date not to have a serious relationship. But I want a serious relationship

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 6w

Aggressively might now be the right word. More like condescending

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 6w

Btw op i wasnt trying to come across patronizing i just didnt see your perspective and wanted to figure out where youre coming from

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6w

U can want a serious relationship and still date multiple ppl!

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Anonymous 6w

Ohhh I see. Definitely not perfectionism :) i know no one is perfect, i just have qualities i look out for and my parent seems to think it doesn’t matter ? But yes i see your point I didn’t mean it to come off that way

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