Femininity is a performance and I don’t have the energy to perform constantly

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questioned my gender for years. I am a woman, I don’t know exactly why, I think I’d have gender dysphoria if I was amab. I do not perform femininity and I don’t care to. my hair’s been short since high school and I haven’t worn makeup since I was 8 and I don’t intend to change either of those things :)

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That’s why I’m autigender / non-binary, being a “woman” or “man” is a social construct & we’re known for not understanding social constructs, so why force yourself to conform to another one? Be feminine in an anti-gender wayyy 💖✨

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Same it doesn't help that it's hard to make friends with other girls sometimes

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my theory about this is that gender at its core is just a societal structure, and autistic people(especially women, as the “performance” aspect feels much more ingrained) i feel are at a disadvantage due to already having trouble understanding social dynamics. like i can’t even grasp how to have polite conversation half the time how tf do you expect me to know my place in the world “as a woman”😭😭

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thinking about this more id feel the same way if i tried to be more masc 😭 im just bad at being a person

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