
when guys say “kind of/slightly autistic” they obviously have no idea about autism or they’re just infantilizing autism down to “quirky” and “socially awkward” bits without acknowledging it’s a real condition, just expressing their desire for a vulnerable/easy to manipulate person. no interest in seeing an autistic woman as a grown adult with more depth than just the parts they like to fetishize. unfortunately pedophilia has ingrained itself in male gaze & culture, esp with the beauty standard.
i’ve learned that guys (those that don’t think too deeply about much) almost always just want the idea of a thing and not the actual thing because then it would require actual effort from them. laziest people in the world yet want all the validation without doing any of the work. and all of their relationships will be superficial and transactional because they just cannot find it within themselves to not be selfish in all of their relationships.
the second my ex boyfriend started being like “haha i love having an autistic atheist goth gf” i was like okay wrap it up. do men think that women (esp autistic women) have zero respect for themselves?😭 like thanks for telling me how little you think of me beyond stereotypes and how you see me as an object you own for your own benefit rather than a mutual relationship between two people. you see them as a human, they see you as a dog. #BringTheBirthRateToZero