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Autistic girl community 16h
if youre an autistic girl and even a little bit fat it's genuinely so over for your social life. im 21 no friendships no relationships. i dont get invited anywhere and nobody texts me apart from homework help. idek why im alive anymore
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Anonymous 13h

Same. I’m physically disabled on top of it and people avoid me like the plague :/

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Anonymous 12h

fat autistic people are the bulk of my friend group </3 be kind to yourself, your people are out there

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Anonymous 11h

I feel you so much that it’s hard to make friends. But it is possible if you actively pursue it and seek it out (I always have to start convos and know I won’t connect with every single person I talk to), Signed an obese autistic person with friends of every genre.

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Anonymous 4h

Fat. Autistic. And have mostly Irish and Scottish ancestry (my blushes can be seen from space and they happen a lot). It’s not down to you being fat or autistic that you struggle making friends. Maybe you don’t have a big enough pool of options or maybe youre trying with the wrong people but this would be something really good to talk to a therapist about. They could help you learn to socialize, sometimes it’s as easy as just saying hi to the right kind of person that fits you.

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Anonymous 8h

No it’s not?? And if you’re so worried about your weight just put the fork down

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 12h

i’m queer though so maybe it’s different if you’re straight?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 12h

im also queer😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 12h

then it’s definitely not over! i found a lot of my friends through fiber arts and rocky horror and i never thought it would be possible. im disabled, wear a mask everywhere i go, and have such limited energy that i drop off the face of the planet unexpectedly. still they reach out to me and invite me places and i cant believe it sometimes but its real

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 12h

Where have you found these people???😭 I’m fat, queer, disabled, super limited energy, and I’m so alone

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 12h

i saved up energy to go to fiber arts stitch and bitches and also attended several rocky horror productions. went enough times (maybe 3-5?) and then people saw me and i saw them. tried my best to socialize and eventually people liked my vibe enough to strike up conversations and invite me to after parties, then casual hangouts before the event, to completely unrelated events. at this point we’ve been friends for like 3 years and i make friends through friends!

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 11h

that's so nice to hear actually, im glad you found good friends 🥹

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 3h

If it was that easy no one would be fat

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1h

It is that easy, it’s jsut a calorie deficit

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