Autistic girl community on Sidechat | I’m bad in social situations and upset people by not reading the room. I’ve decided instead of worrying about it I should assume everything is fine unless stated by the other person. Is this a good idea? Can I assume others will communicate like I would?

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Autistic girl community 10w

I’m bad in social situations and upset people by not reading the room. I’ve decided instead of worrying about it I should assume everything is fine unless stated by the other person. Is this a good idea? Can I assume others will communicate like I would?

Anonymous 10w

What you mean

Anonymous 10w

No, and they won’t. You’ll become isolated

Anonymous 10w

Individuals who are not on the autism spectrum typically do not explicitly communicate their needs or feelings. They often expect others to interpret social cues and understand unspoken signals. If someone fails to do so, they may become increasingly dismissive and, eventually, may behave rudely. Therefore, although it may not always be comfortable, being attentive to social cues can be important for maintaining positive interactions and personal well-being.

Anonymous 10w

ive found ppl only get more upset when u pretend like everything is ok. they never clearly say that theyre upset but still get mad when u dont realize theyre upset. theres like certain things to look for with ppl, like if they get super quiet and withdrawn, if their responses get rlly short, sometimes they will say stuff that hints at it. idk if everything is ok then its fine but ive learned to rlly look for these things bc ppl only get more upset. i think its bc they believe that you Do notice-

Anonymous

#1 10w

Sometimes I can’t tell if someone is in a bad mood so I’ll joke like normal but they could be angered by it cause of outside circumstances

Anonymous

#2 10w

Can you elaborate please

Anonymous

#3 10w

…especially if building relationships with others is a priority. It can be challenging, and at times, despite best c efforts, misunderstandings occur. I have experienced uncomfortable situations as a result of this…. as have many others.

Anonymous

#4 10w

and are just ignoring it, which makes them feel like u dont care

Anonymous

#4 10w

How do I know what to look for? Often times I don’t know

Anonymous

#3 10w

Do you have any tips? This makes sense but I’m not quite sure how to help and I don’t want to always be worrying if I’ve upset someone

Anonymous

OP 10w

Unfortunately, I do not. I have watched a few YouTube videos to improve my understanding of facial cues and communication to better connect with others in an approachable manner. It seems to have helped somewhat. However, it can be quite exhausting.

Anonymous

#2 10w

I think you can’t be concerned about the depth of another person’s thoughts through every interaction you have all the time. If dealing with adults, the general rule is “if they have a problem, and they can’t address that problem with communication, then it is their problem alone.” People that have a larger priority in your life deserve special consideration but don’t risk your mental health over anticipating another person’s reaction/mood bc at some point it’s identity stripping/ego killing