
Tbh not excusing his behavior but if hes been assaulted, he may have avoidant tendencies due to trauma or disorganized attachment. He mightve been rlly interested initially then went into a trauma response if he felt triggered by anything familiar (even if u did nothing wrong) or even in his hesd abt what ifs, and then pulled back out of fear and maybe didnt know how to communicate that, esp if he hasnt had trauma therapy. Please try not to take it personally (as a woman that does this at times)
I’ve been trying to give a lot of grace in how things went down! I think logically I can rationalize everything and am super empathetic and seriously hold no hard feelings, however, that doesn’t change how those actions made me feel and so im just dealing with those. But seriously thank you for adding this because i know this is important to keep in mind! :)