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I just got out of a 5 month relationship (my first) and something I really struggled with is him texting me like alllll the time. Is it normal in relationships to text constantly? Was I just freaking out about it? I just felt like I was suffocating.
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Anonymous 1d

I also feel suffocated when I have to text someone all day, it feels like a never ending task :(

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Anonymous 1d

Both are normal and fine as long as you’re both on the same page about it, a lot of people these days want to ALWAYS be talking to their s/o which I don’t really understand, but there are still other people who don’t feel like they need that

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Anonymous 1d

I also always struggle with this in relationships. I somehow consistently attract the type of people who need to be in contact 24/7 and if I don’t respond to a text for a few hours, they start panicking and spam calling me until I answer. I’m also the kind of person who needs lots of space and cannot multitask well at all, so when they need to text constantly throughout the day, I can’t get anything done.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

I kept getting nicknamed as an avoidant for wanting a lot of space, and it was really hard to tell if it was actually that, introversion, or my autism :(

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Needing time to yourself doesn’t make you avoidant!! Unfortunately it’s kind of The Thing right now to want a partner who constantly texts and obsesses over social media posts etc

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

The suffocation feeling is incredibly familiar

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 12h

I didn’t think I was one either 😓 the perfect medium for me would be like texting me if there’s something important or just checking in when needed

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 12h

This is exactly what I attract too! Ahh it’s so frustrating! My biggest hobbies are like crafts and reading so it’s difficult to do that and text constantly

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 12h

Agreed :(

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