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Hi ladies I need some advice for helping a friend of mine. For background, she is autistic, with depression, SA trauma, and BPD, also needs to take occasional social breaks. I haven’t heard from her since August and I’m a little concerned. Can I tex t her
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Anonymous 5w

As someone who is autistic, has bpd, depression, and sa trauma, and needs occasional social breaks, I would reach out and just check in. Don’t like really push or pry but be there if she needs you

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Anonymous 5w

Asking because I’m worried about overwhelming her or upsetting her by making her think she’s not been a good friend.

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Anonymous 5w

In general yes you can always text your friends. It feels awkward to say most things for me so I usually send a meme or give a little update about me and it’s like an invitation for them to talk

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Anonymous 5w

I’d reach out, but don’t say you’re worried. Just say hey, and be casual. Usually when I’m in a spiral, it helps when a friend reaches out, but if they say they’re worried about me, it makes it worse because I start panicking about what I’m doing wrong to worry people.

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Anonymous 5w

as someone who also has all those things plus OCD and ADHD, do NOT reach out. doing so can cause a psychotic episode induced from self doubt and anxiety…

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

I would kill for someone to check in on me you’re a really good friend

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

I’m happy to be your friend also❤️

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

Omg you’re so sweet (I’m awful at being friends with people though I don’t wanna make you deal with me lol)

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

I think wording/intention is the biggest thing here. There’s a difference between you checking in like “was thinking of you and wondering how you’re doing! no pressure to respond if you’re busy though” and “you haven’t spoken to me in months and I’m worried about you”

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 5w

This is coming from someone who’s autistic, has ocd, antisocial personality, and needs social breaks :)

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 5w

Huh interesting, thank you for the point of view!

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 5w

Thank you for that, I’ll definitely avoid saying that!

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

Sure! Happy to be of any help. I hope your friend feels better and I hope you’re doing well too.

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