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my therapist just told me my boyfriend is showing precursors for abuse. i’m terrified and gutted. has anyone went through this before?
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Anonymous 3w

Yes unfortunately and my therapist was right and then when I left my life got so much better and I’m finally happy and he was draining the life out of me. Adults don’t get to ban other adults from doing stuff. Please dump him to make room for your future spouse who will love and respect you (if you want a spouse). Also I went to www.loveisrespect.org and took the relationship health quiz and realized I needed to GTFO

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Anonymous 4w

What are the specifics of what she said

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Anonymous 4w

Yep i just moved out of my ex gfs house cuz she was abusing me

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

i spoke about never having met any of his friends (always an excuse, i’m pretty oblivious), that he doesn’t like when i speak to mine about him, he doesn’t allow me to post on social media (if i do, it’s an argument), he speaks down on the things i enjoy (i interpreted this as a joke), and he drinks very often. i just broke up with him over the phone

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

how are you doing??

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

she said that him not allowing me to talk to my friends about him, and never having met his, was isolating. she said the social media management was controlling. i had no idea. i stopped speaking about him to my best friend & my mom (at his request) about 4-5 months ago

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

plus the alcoholism, ehhhhh, i was hoping i could “fix him” bc i was convinced it was my job

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

apologies for the word vomit, emotions are pretty high rn. if you need more specifics im willing to provide tomorrow when i have a more clear head

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

I’m sorry you’re going though this right now but I just want to say I’m so proud of you for looking out for your safety and well-being ❤️‍🩹 It is NOT easy to end things or see your partner in this light

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

So great now that km gone. I only have to interact with her a couple more times before i leave but it seems like she is not gonna pay me back for her share of rent for half the month or utilities as a last ditch attempt to have power over me :(

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

thank you, that’s very kind. i’ll be okay! i still have my dogs :)

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

hey, you got away!! i know the economy is fucking ass, but so is the price of happiness sometimes. if eating the bill is what it takes, do it, and never speak to her about it. protect yourself, and if you have a support system, please use it. my dms are open if you need an ear

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 3w

i broke up with him during a phone call last night!

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Youre prob right ive been calling her for over a week and she keeps ignoring that

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

it’s time to cut it unfortunately. i had a clingy roommate do the same thing last summer

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