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Autistic girl community 22h
Anyone else with an extreme identity crisis issue? Was never happier than when I was a masc presenting NB person, but I’ve since transitioned into a Barbie for the sake of navigating life and people being kinder. I wish I could just be a floating orb :/
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Anonymous 18h

lowkey i really really felt like that at multiple points in my life but after i started viewing gender as something i perform, not something i am, it really really helped. like i am a floating orb! but sometimes i look very masc and sometimes i look very feminine and thats ok because im still myself, like i am the orb, i just change my outward appearance sometimes. the way i dress is literally just me customizing my character

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Anonymous 16h

I’m out at nb and I really wish I could just be Me but I feel like I’m gonna have to just call myself a woman and dress up/wear more makeup just to feel like I’m worthy of being treated like a normal person in this world

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 18h

i also felt for a long time that i had to stick to either masc or fem style and that i had to pick? but like literally u don’t

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 18h

also i think the most helpful thing in figuring this out was that I read Gender Trouble by Judith Butler. their explanation of gender as being a performance really helped me. the book is from the 90s so there’s a few little things that don’t hold up but the core ideas of it do.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 17h

Thank you, I needed to hear this. It really helps to think of it as a performance and not who I am as a person inside. I’ll have to check that book out as well, appreciate all the advice :)

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 16h

Out as*

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 16h

I relate to people who talk about gender like character customization because that’s what it really feels like to me, I’m a female but I never felt like a girl or woman based on how my mind works and how I live my life compared to all the other girls/women I grew up around, sometimes I dress fem and sometimes masc, I wish it could just be left at that

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 14h

I hate how the world treats gender nonconformity, especially being autistic it’s hard enough as is and people are plenty mean enough, thats the only reason I stopped and the difference is insane. Ppl think it’s “quirky” or “ditzy” as a femme presenting person but before I got called slurs and life was so much more difficult for lit everything

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