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Ask Women 4w

So I recently found out my partner is in the military and I didn’t find out from him I found out from his mom while I was over there meeting her for the first time. There was a picture I found from someone else that’s of him with three other dudes

Anonymous 4w

In uniform and the caption “AIT” when I asked him about that he said he didn’t know or couldn’t remember what that post was about…and when I brought it up again in the car his mom was surprised he didn’t tell me and asked him what else he was hiding from me and that he needs to communicate better. When he drove me home I asked if he at least enjoyed it and he said he did and that it was fun but now any time I try to talk about it again he avoids the conversation.

Anonymous 4w

As someone who was in a very similar situation (he refused to tell me anything about the military) if he's lying about that there's definitely a whole bunch of other things he's lying about! My most recent ex i found out two months in that he is in the military as a military police (this part i found out through asking my boss because he was so secretive about it for what I thought was no reason) then the lying started to increase the longer we dated. He cheated. Not physically but through apps

Anonymous 3w

Have you considered he literally can’t tell you legally

Anonymous

OP 4w

I’ve told him about my abuser being the military and that military men are not rlly that great. Could I be in the wrong?

Anonymous

#1 4w

Talking to women on every dating app imaginable. And when asked he said the military kinda peer pressures you into that sort of thing especially since he was deployed places every few months. They're self serving pricks that don't REALLY gaf eho they hurt, as long as they can eventually get someone who can sleep with them on a common basis and who they can come back to after a mission

Anonymous

#1 4w

Over all he is definitely hiding it for a purpose and you shouldn't ignore the signs!

Anonymous

#1 4w

He has dating apps…and he constantly mentions how before we dated that he didn’t rlly put any effort for a relationship after his previous relationship ended 3 years ago

Anonymous

#1 4w

Well idk if he still has dating apps but he use to before we dated. And when I asked him if there was anyone he was interested in anyone he said not currently at the moment but when I told him I liked him he said he felt the same way and that’s when we started dating. He’s mentioned many times how much he likes goth girls and whenever I would make a joke abt him loving them he said “that would be me if I wasn’t in a relationship”

Anonymous

OP 4w

And his friend made a joke abt me hanging out with goth baddies as a response to working at hot topic and my bf responded “I currently can’t hangout with goth baddies” and I jokingly said “I can be a goth baddie for you” and he didn’t respond to that

Anonymous

OP 4w

Omfg..are you dating my ex

Anonymous

#1 3w

LMAO does his name start with an A?

Anonymous

OP 3w

No it was a K and he's 24

Anonymous

#1 3w

Oh, that’s a relief

Anonymous

#2 3w

His whole family knows….

Anonymous

#2 3w

Did you even read?

Anonymous

#2 3w

I literally found out from his mom

Anonymous

OP 3w

Family is different than a gf

Anonymous

#2 3w

Then why would he post about it on his Instagram if he legally can’t tell me about it…

Anonymous

#2 3w

Most people in the military can tell you what they are in the military, their job, branch, rank, they just can't discuss locations and dates of deployment or anything classified

Anonymous

#2 3w

You can even look them up so im not sure how it could be a secret