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Thoughts on sending someone “are you interested in anything casual?” effectively stopping the small talk
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Anonymous 1d

It’s polite, which is good. It will probably turn off some who would otherwise be interested in something casual, bc unfortunately saying it so early in conversation will come off as objectifying to a number of people. That being said, if you’re looking for someone who’d be down for sex without knowing much about you or sussing out the chemistry, it’s probably a solid filter. It’s an approach with a niche appeal, but being upfront will probably get you the results u want sooner.

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Anonymous 1d

I think I’d reword it to “I think I should clarify that I am mostly interested in something more casual before we keep taking” so that way you’re both on the same page and if you’re not, you both don’t waste time ^^

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Anonymous 1d

Tbh if ur a man saying this to a woman she is likely to feel objectified

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

True, so im trying to see how to rip that bandaid off , we’ve already done the get to know you talk for the past couple weeks , and im trying to slowly introduce that my intentions are not to be a penpal nor is it a serious relationship

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Say smth more like that, be clear about your intentions to explore intimacy but also your desire to not make her feel objectified

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

What would sound best ?

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