Ask Women on Sidechat | My boyfriend of four years is so low effort and I’m starting to hate him, but I love him so much still. For any occasion that like someone would get a gift I just asked for him to like genuinely plan a date. And I’ve never gotten one.

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My boyfriend of four years is so low effort and I’m starting to hate him, but I love him so much still. For any occasion that like someone would get a gift I just asked for him to like genuinely plan a date. And I’ve never gotten one.

Anonymous 3w

He is showing you that he doesn't care. Up to you what to do with that information

Anonymous 3w

As someone whos been in this situation before, id reccommend breaking up if this is an ongoing situation. It feels scary to leave the comfort of this even if it is something you resent but its so worth it and once you get out and have perspective your self worth will come back and make you realize you deserve more <3 if u wanna talk about it im all ears

Anonymous 3w

I asked a man for 6 years to buy me flowers. Just buy me flowers. Just spend $5 on a bouquet at Walmart please I am begging you. He bought the Lego orchid set so I would stop asking for flowers. I like to keep dried flowers for sentiment and I don’t even fucking like orchids. He was surprised when I broke up with him, they don’t change

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Anonymous 3w

You absolutely should break up with him. He may be changing but it doesn’t sound like he’s changing for you. You don’t have to be in a relationship if he doesn’t treat you well.

Anonymous

#1 3w

OK, but every time I try to break up with him, he cries and begs me not to

Anonymous

OP 3w

so it's happened more than once and he's learned that's all he has to do. his actions are showing you he doesn't care, you try to leave because he won't change, and he cries and begs because that's all it takes and then he goes back to not caring.

Anonymous

#1 3w

That’s actually not all it takes. It takes a massive conversation. It takes him showing that he is changing, but he’s not changing at a fast enough pace to make me not still fucking hate him.

Anonymous

#2 3w

I concur. Mine started to act a bit too gaslighty, so I dumped him. (I suspect that he was either following a bad example or genuinely trying to bring me down and “level the playing field”). 0 regrets, even shortly after. It’s so quiet and peaceful. I can sit down to do my homework, and nobody will randomly start poking me. He’s cute yeah, but not worth the invasion of my peace.