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Overall, it's a good thing that men don't approach women in public anymore

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235 votes

Anonymous 2w

It’s a mix of good and bad imo, but mostly good

Anonymous 2w

Yes and no. Approaching shouldn’t always be romantic yet that’s how men make it out to be bc yet again men only see women as something to gain, not as just regular humans and an extra addition to their lives. Probably why the social norm gravitates to the internet and why so many ppl think in order to meet ppl you need to be on dating apps. Ppl have slowly stopped interacting organically bc of the fear of rejection or looking stupid that everything feels forced and staged

Anonymous 2w

I don’t think approaching would be bad if men like universally knew how to do it in a non-creepy way

Anonymous 2w

Yes if they are creepy or being weird towards, like one time I was at the gym mid set and this guy came up right behind me on the squat rack, with no personal space and started asking me a lot of questions that had nothing to do with working out (this was a 50yro). But no bc when I go out to bars I rarely get hit on and I hate the dating apps.

Anonymous 2w

There’s more factors to this than that basic survey, since when did men approach women more in the past ? You’re claiming this based on what era or what time period ? What regions ? There’s more to it than what op is asking here, didn’t it actually increase since women in the past were more sheltered and modern era is the opposite of that? We’re spinning heads here

Anonymous 2w

it’s not good or bad it’s about how they do it.

Anonymous 2w

That’s fine. I (a guy) can get on board if women don’t want to be approached anymore 😌. While we’re at it, no more holding the door or paying for dates …works for me I get there’s other ways to meet ppl, but I’d MUCH rather prefer meeting ppl organically

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Anonymous

#2 2w

I know I’m gonna get a lot of shit for that. I really don’t care, though

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Anonymous

#1 2w

Just because I feel like elaborating, one of the bad things is that a lot of men seem to take it to the extreme and just refuse to talk to women altogether. Like just normally getting to know them as people. There’s a difference between doing a cold approach on a complete stranger while she’s in the middle of something, VS getting acquainted with the women around you and having naturally developing friendships and romantic relationships

Anonymous

#1 2w

One of the good things is that there are less creepy/inappropriate moves being made towards women, cold approaches can be respectful but a lot of them aren’t! A lot of men can’t cope with women saying no and it can lead to some pretty horrible things if they have anger issues. It’s also just uncomfortable in certain situations. Plus a lot of women are mainly attracted to personality, which you can’t know based on someone’s appearance

Anonymous

#2 2w

1. We don't care about holding door we can open doors too! 2. The rule is the person who ask for a date is the one that pays, this applies to LGBTQ relationships too

Anonymous

#2 2w

Oh no I have to hold my own door and pay for myself? Whatever will I do? Thank goodness I already do those things lol

Anonymous

#4 2w

Fr like some of us actually prefer 50/50…

Anonymous

#1 2w

Just want to put out there that I agree with what y’all are saying. I just believe in a more organic and chivalrous approach. Go ahead and open your doors and pay for your meal. Not gonna stop me from being polite. The fact that you feel the need to retaliate and fight chivalry is what upsets men; just say thank you as opposed to picking a fight

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Anonymous

#2 2w

It's not chivalry if you are expecting something back from women, that's a transaction

Anonymous

#5 2w

Safety wise? Yeah that’s great ppl become less cautious of the unknown. Making more friends and partners no

Anonymous

#2 2w

There is a difference between an organic meet cute and being on an actual date. Go ahead and put yourself out there if you want to be organic but youre making it about dating which has nothing to do with it at all. If you ask someone out after holding the door for them, don’t be offended when they say no.