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Do any other women also have trouble staying mentally present while having sex? Like Ill be giving head and thinking about anything from my unsolved triple integral problems to my plans for the summer. Ive had this issue across multiple partners 😵‍💫
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Anonymous 2w

I have had the same partner for ten years as well but also cannot stay present. I could in the beginning. Idk why. It’s frustrating. Is it him? Is it me? Both!? My ADAH!?

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Anonymous 2w

I used to info dump during sex. Worked in my case because he thought my brain was cute

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Anonymous 2w

no sorry i only have good sex

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Anonymous 2w

I don’t know if it’s because it’s been my same partner for over a decade but I think about every way to make it better for him

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Anonymous 2w

So, I’m curious for those that can relate to this post. Are you usually the one to initiate sex? Would you say you see it as an important part of the relationship, or not really?

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 2w

Yeah, I don’t understand this either…

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 2w

tell them what you like and if they don't do it do it yourself. stop when you're done and go when you're not

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 2w

It is important but only good with the right person

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 2w

No, I 100% agree. I meant I don’t understand not being in the moment (unless something nonconsentual is happening)

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 2w

Some of us just have brains that are perpetually noisy or distracted. My internal monologue just keeps on rambling, no matter how overwhelming the situation. Even in the middle of a life or death emergency, my thoughts sound the same.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 2w

This!! I used to have this problem until I met someone who was actually able meet my needs. I could never focus and it got to the point to where I started thinking I was asexual. Sometimes the sex is genuinely just bad, but society encourages women to put the blame on themselves.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 2w

nah i get it, i have ADHD so my mind is everywhere and sex used to be boring. but now ik what i like and know how to express it. then i found a guy who gives good head. tmi: he fucks me so good i go literally braindead

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