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Mind if I rant real quick? I genuinely hate modern dating, I only really use dating apps because my social anxiety is bad and whenever I want to ask someone out irl I never know the right time and don’t want her to get scared or something
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Anonymous 3w

imma say this as gently as possible, but ur social anxiety + low self esteem combo is going to make this difficult. A huge part of dating is communicating and being open as well as also being confident and secure in urself, work on those things and then start worrying about finding a partner

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Anonymous 3w

But whenever I use dating apps they completely kill my self esteem and I just feel so unwanted when I get a like per month (not a match, a like)

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Anonymous 3w

And I’m too left leaning to date any of the conservatives here (not that I would want to) but not feminine/twink enough for the leftist

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Anonymous 3w

You may be one of those people who don’t find anybody until you start only worrying about yourself and when that does happen I suggest you just enjoy the moment because it will not last

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Anonymous 3w

And no one has ever asked me out ever or messaged me first on a dating app so it feels like I have to keep looking for someone because it feels like if I don’t I won’t find anyone

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

You do realize not all leftist women want twinks right?

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 3w

I mean yeah but I mostly just meant I’m not their type

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

That’s again not true. You can’t say that when you don’t know the demographics. Also you definitely aren’t the only guy who struggles with dating apps, and there’s also a lot of women who struggle. Dating apps are really difficult.

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 3w

To be fair to myself, I’ve swiped through the entirety of the local bumble/duet/hinge and have had 0 people near me on tinder before. So idk what else to feel except that they aren’t interested in me

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 3w

I know I’m not the only person who struggles with dating apps, I just wanted to rant

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 3w

Tbh I only made this post because someone I was clicking really well with ghosted me right before my birthday and just really frustrated me

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

Idk, I doubt I could find someone without actively looking, that’s the hard part of being queer in the south and not being in a big city, and looking like you would hate crime yourself

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

You know confidence is everything regardless of how you feel honestly people are more attracted to those of us who know and act like we’re attractive n dnt gaf what anyone else thinks

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

I mean yeah I usually act with confidence it’s just hard sometimes to feel confident

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

It’s all in your head tho remember everything is a mind game, rls, hookups, dating all of it is a mind game because it’ll leave you just how you are questioning, contemplating, and in your head

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