Anonymous #1 5w

I never even had sex with my ex just gave him head

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Anonymous #3 5w

It’s not the same as calling someone/something better, it’s an objective comparison of size..

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Anonymous #2 5w

A better comparison would be if he said his ex gf were shorter than her or had longer hair etc

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Anonymous #3 5w

It was an accident and he kind of asked me. I just said it was easier to fit in my mouth and it kind of snowballed from there

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Anonymous OP 5w

But I lost my virginity to my current boyfriend like idk

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Bro. Reread the post😭 your right and thays the issue

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Anonymous #2 5w

I know I don’t know if it’s porn or what but it seems so common it’s very sad. It always matters way more to them than us

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Maybe to other men but real life isn’t porn

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Anonymous #2 5w

Okay fair enough for a better example. But it doesn’t carry the same weight. It doesn’t matter if you think its weird that the man is upset. You should respect his feelings even if you dont understand them just like any other human.

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Bigger is not necessarily better but too extremely small isn’t good either it just sucks cause most of the time the guy cares more than the girl

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Anonymous OP 5w

Thats messed up. I get how it slipped but still a real kick in the gut for the guy regardless of what you did or didnt do before.

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Anonymous #3 5w

I understand completely. I just don’t know what to do everything I’ve said just makes it worse and we haven’t talked about it recently but I can tell he’s still fixated on it

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Anonymous #3 5w

Unfortunately it’s up to men to work on their insecurities, I don’t really know what you expect women to do with this

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Anonymous OP 5w

And I love him like I want to marry him I just want him to know it doesn’t matter to me

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Anonymous OP 5w

Idk i gotta be real never had the insecurity and ik im not the biggest dude😭 doesnt mean it doesnt hurt hearing that from someone you love. Thats the part that probably hurt him the most. Some random ho says it nobody cares.

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Anonymous #2 5w

I just thought maybe someone else had a similar situation

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Anonymous #2 5w

We say bigger isn’t always better and you guys still get mad at that so like there’s nothing else for us to do to try to keep reassuring you over and over size isn’t everything

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Anonymous #2 5w

Humans and emotions are illogical you have to learn to deal with it. Women do the same thing for different reasons.

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Anonymous #3 5w

Absolutely this. I’ve had jealousy over his exes too and he knows exactly what to say to make me feel better and I just want to be able to do the same for him

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Anonymous OP 5w

Honestly just take a slow approach. Bros hurt so he needs time. When he does reapproach just be reassuring. DONT keep bringing it up that is not what i mean by reassurance. Id be pretty fixated on that to cause like the context of comparison is rough.

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Anonymous #3 5w

Thank you 🫶

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Anonymous OP 5w

Yeaa dont thank me bc idk your bf personally so maybe im wrong. But if i was him id like to let it fade in this situation and hope i get some special treatment for the near future.

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Anonymous #6 5w

He kind of asked me and it just snowballed and got worse and worse

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Anonymous OP 5w

Oof this is the perfect opportunity to tell a white lie. Or you could even say something to the effect of you not noticing. If there is one thing guys are understandably insecure about, it’s penis size. What with all the mention of it in movies, music and other media, it’s a symbol of manliness so it’s going to effect the guy if he is “smaller” and others are “bigger”

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Anonymous #6 5w

Yeah looking back I wish I did but like it’s really not even that big of a difference just slight that’s why I didn’t think it would be this big of a deal. He’s been with a lot of girls and is confident etc

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Anonymous OP 5w

Well it is what it is at this point. I’d say find some other way to boost his ego in order to compensate, if you can or want to

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Anonymous #7 5w

Yeah don’t tell him this, it’ll make things worse

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Anonymous #7 5w

That’s thing tho is I wouldn’t know. He was my first

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Anonymous #6 5w

Agreed, I’m kidding.

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Anonymous #8 5w

I have a perfectly healthy weight and we’re going to get married, our relationship is perfect besides this

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Anonymous OP 5w

so perfect that you called him your boyfriend and not fiance?

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Anonymous #8 5w

Where is this attitude coming from 😭 why so rude to OP

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Anonymous #8 5w

We aren’t engaged yet

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Anonymous #6 5w

fuck all that 😂 this is part of why they care so much. instead of challenging their oversensitivity to superficial nonsense like dick size we tell eachother to lie to them. stop! stop humoring it! nobody cares more than them

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Anonymous #9 5w

one shouldn't ask questions one isn't ready to have answered (sending this later cuz i got distracted)

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Anonymous #2 5w

#8 is 100% insecure about his own teeny peeny and took this story personally

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Anonymous #9 5w

It’s a sensitive issue I get it. I love my man and I just have his best interest in mind ❤️

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Anonymous OP 5w

i hear you. it's important to remember that his best interest is him maturing beyond this, which is an internal process you have little to no control over. i might be wrong but it seems like you feel compelled to fix it - but only he can do that. i hope you encourage him to challenge those feelings rather than just trying to assuage them . you'll both be better off

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Anonymous #9 5w

Thank you I’ll try and take that to heart

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Anonymous #9 5w

are you seriously saying that the "BOYFRIEND" is the problem here??? lmfao. imagine your boyfriend mentioning his exes in bed with YOU. wow

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Anonymous #8 5w

i'll wait for you to screenshot where i even used the word "problem". i'll throw you a bone and include "issue". then, when you're unable to do that, you can explain where you even get the idea that i'm saying either of these people are "the issue" if somebody mentions their ex in bed with me i probably wouldn't care because chances are i've already talked to them about their past experiences and what they dis/liked. i don't feel bad in comparison to other people

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Anonymous #5 5w

realistically if you want him to really feel better, i'm going to drop some company secrets but just tell him, "my exes hurt a lot and i couldn't handle it but yours feels so much better and i love having you inside me so much more" he will feel better that he doesnt hurt you and you're saving your relationship because he will think that you wouldn't want your ex ever again because it hurt

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Anonymous #5 5w

Her current bf is her first

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Anonymous #6 5w

so why is the ex relevant if she didn’t fuck him?

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Anonymous #5 5w

She sucked him off

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Anonymous #6 5w

if they didn’t fuck then i dont get the boyfriend’s point, not like they fucked, just a suck but he’s still the one with the privilege to fuck her and she only fucks him

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Anonymous #10 5w

She stated he’s bisexual and has penis envy

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Anonymous #9 5w

what is wrong with you why would you mention past relationships at all??? bizarro

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Anonymous #8 5w

that's what i thought 😂 i accept your concession

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Anonymous #6 5w

He needs to get over that.

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Anonymous #5 5w

why are you lying😂

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Anonymous #3 5w

i’d say it’d be the same as like “my ex was tighter”

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Anonymous #11 5w

what am i lying about

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Anonymous #2 5w

i think a better one would be if he said that his ex had a bigger ass

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Anonymous #14 4w

Also. OP is implying he technically asked. So like. Don’t ask if you don’t want the answer 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Anonymous #2 4w

Women’s fault

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Anonymous #2 4w

It’s not really obsessed with comparing sizes, but more the fact that men are body shamed for it that it comes of as not masculine. So many people insulting and making dick jokes adds to it too

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Anonymous #2 4w

i think it’s probably because size queens exist and also porn, but regardless she said she never fucked her ex so i really don’t see what’s the big thing here, supposedly it was just head and from a guy’s perspective i really don’t see the issue why he’s upset, not like they fucked or anything

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Anonymous #5 4w

doesn't even matter if they had sex or not

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Anonymous #2 4w

Idk I don’t feel like it would be good for a guy to say to their gf that their exes boobs or butt was bigger

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Anonymous OP 4w

Bro it’s like if he said his ex’s ass was bigger than yours. It’s just hurtful, and something you should let slip. But shit happens 🤷‍♂️

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Anonymous #19 4w

Shouldn’t*

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Anonymous #2 4w

If a man tells a woman his ex’s butt was bigger is it up to the women to work on their insecurities? The audacity lmao

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Anonymous #20 4w

reading the story you'll find that op basically said that it fits in her mouth easy and her partner then *asked* about comparisons this would be like a man saying "i love that i can fit your whole buttcheek in my hand". if his gf then *asked* him about his exs' butts and she got hurt... i would ABSOLUTELY tell her to work on her insecurities and stop digging for hurt feelings 😂 and another thing: WHY IS HE PUTTING HER IN THE POSITION TO HAVE TO ANSWER THAT?! that's a fucked up catch 22

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Anonymous #20 4w

like there is no good answer to that question and even avoiding it is gonna hurt feelings. this is a 100% unforced error on his part. he didn't have to ask. if he was secure he would understand that she's saying it's easier for her to pleasure which is a compliment. it's like somebody saying you have a goldilocks dick and you getting mad because you don't have the papa bear dick

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Anonymous #9 4w

Cats already out of the bag at that point him asking the question is more of a formality to confirm whats been implied.

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Anonymous #3 4w

no lol

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Anonymous #3 4w

i'm sorry but that's like a genuinely stupid take

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