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My best friend and I are both 21. I moved in with my now fiance 1.5 into our relationship. Her new boyfriend and her got together 3 weeks ago and she’s already talking about having another kid but with him, and moving in together. Do I voice concern?
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Anonymous 1w

I doubt you’re gonna listen anyways… but hey…. Please let the decision-making part of your brain develop before you literally bring a new life that’s 100% dependent on you into the world…

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Anonymous 2w

Depends on if you want to keep your friendship the way it is now unfortunately. If she already thinks its wise to move in and have a kid this early on then im not sure if she's someone who would listen to reason. Ive seen a lot of relationships end because of things like this even when you mean well

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

She already has a daughter with her ex. And it’s not like this guy isn’t a nice person. It’s just worrisome

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

I think having kids with someone you just started dating is selfish towards the kid. Imagine if he's not such a nice guy anymore. Imagine if he doesn't stay there for the kid or want to be a father. She needs to reevaluate her ideas on relationships and slow down

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

21 with a kid and trying to have another 🤯

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

I mean me and my fiance have been trying to conceive for the past year. So I mean

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Even if we just take the concept of finances and dissect it… how on earth is having a kid at 20-21 a good idea in this economy??? I honestly think you guys need to think a little harder and more rationally about this. I want a kid badly! My body wants one (I’m 23) but I definitely would NOT right now where I am in life. I want my kid to be well-provided for physically and mentally. And in reality, unless you both have some crazy good job and unmatched maturity, that is not the case right now.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1w

Children are an investment FOREVER, let yourself adjust further into the beginning stages of adulthood first, don’t rush it. Have kids when you’re financially, and mentally stable and ready

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