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Hey, first time poster here. How can I tell if my feelings for this woman are genuine, or if I’m just rebounding and don’t see it? I don’t want to enter a relationship without being sure, because this lady is great and don’t want to be that kind of guy
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Anonymous 5d

What specifically do you like about her? That usually solves a lot of questions related to genuine attraction

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Anonymous 5d

follow ur gut!!

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Anonymous 5d

Okay so there’s a few questions I’d ask yourself: If your ex wanted you back would you go? Do you see similarities between her and your ex? How long has it been since you two broke up? It does sound like you like her but if you are still unsure I’d ask these questions

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Anonymous 5d

If you grew up with her, why didn’t you date her earlier? I’m currently married, but I have an ex that I grew up with. I have no idea what kind of man he is now, but I still get butterflies just typing this. For me, it’s the thought of him, not his true self. For me, he represents a time with less responsibility, complexity, etc. He’s comfortable like my childhood home is. That part is difficult to sort out.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5d

She’s very caring, and always seems genuinely interested in the things we talk about and do when we hang out. We grew up together, so I know her and know I can trust her, and when I’m with her it’s like the world is less harsh. I had feelings for her forever ago, but we went to different colleges and it didn’t go anywhere

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5d

That doesn’t sound like a rebound to me, especially because of the trait you led with there. And those feelings being semi persistent is also a great sign

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5d

That’s what I’m thinking but wanted an outside viewpoint, thank you. I just wanna be safe because this is an amazing woman and I don’t want to be just diving in without being certain. This woman was the only person who really supported me and got me to find the care I needed after my previous breakup. And since we’ve been going out for drinks, lunch, movies, and it just feels so right

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 5d

The breakup was about a month ago. I would not take my ex back. We broke up on VERY bad terms. Not too sure about similarities

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 5d

We hung out a ton before, I’d take her out to the movies or food or just to hang out. But she got too busy with college to be together much

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5d

Honestly? It doesn’t sound like a rebound, especially since you liked her before.

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 5d

Thank you for the advice!

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