Anonymous #1 3w

Some might say if u r sexual, that encourages sexualization

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Anonymous OP 3w

You can share a sexual encounter without reducing someone to an object. Most normal people understand this, online it seems like a foreign concept to the many on here

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Anonymous OP 3w

I feel like I need to tell you that sexualisation isn’t finding someone hot or sexy, its reducing their value down to their body or just seeing them as a sexual object

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Anonymous #2 3w

So I say ur hot, that isn’t sexualizing u?

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Anonymous OP 3w

Like a girl should be able to want to look hot without wanting to be treated as a sex object

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Anonymous OP 3w

Not if you see them as more than that and a whole human being also

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Anonymous #2 3w

If I go up to u and tell u that ur hot, u wouldn’t see that as sexualization?

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Anonymous OP 3w

If it’s a normal place to do that like a bar or club and you’re not being weird about it no, you can even want to hook up with someone and see them as a whole person that exists outside of your sexual desire and has a family and friends and goes to classes and has a future and everything

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Anonymous #2 3w

I think it depends on who is calling u hot too. Is it someone u find attractive, or no? I don’t think you’d be ok w/ most guys saying this to u, even in the contexts u described

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Anonymous OP 3w

Then I nicely say oh thank you but no thanks and move on

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Anonymous #2 3w

I actually would say that to anyone bc I don’t want to be in a relationship or hook up or anything rn and when I’ve explained that before I feel like I’m not believed and they assume I think they’re ugly or something. I’m not doing well financially or mentally and I don’t love myself and I dont think im in a good or fair place to be in a relationship rn. But this is all very off topic

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 3w

U don’t think wearing sexually suggestive clothes and dancing suggestively encourages sexualization?

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Anonymous OP 3w

When did I ever say anything about wearing “sexually suggestive clothing”? When did I ever say anything about dancing? Respond to what I said. Why should I have been so worried about being sexualized in middle school that I stopped eating bananas?

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Anonymous #2 3w

I think you may be conflating sexualization with sexual objectification? The New Oxford American Dictionary defines sexualization as to “make sexual; attribute sex or a sex role to” Nothing in that definition, or what I understand sexualization to mean, inherently implies objectification, or reducing someone’s value down to their body or the sexual desire they evoke in others.

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Anonymous #2 3w

So at least as I and most men would interpret the meaning of the word sexualize, this poll is saying that women want to be sexual but not perceived as being sexual, nor have anything of a sexual nature attributed to them, which doesn’t really make sense, no? I get women want to be sexual without being sexually objectified, which seems to be how women are interpreting the poll, but that’s not what this poll is actually asking I don’t think?

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 3w

Maybe a better way to phrase that would be women sometimes want to be sexual, but don’t want to constantly be sexualized even when they aren’t trying to be sexual?

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Anonymous #4 3w

The way women experience being sexualized IS sexual objectification. That’s just how it is for us. And that’s where we are coming from when answering the poll. The definition doesn’t reflect reality. Women want to be sexual without being seen as an object, which because of how we experience the world is intrinsically linked.

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Anonymous #4 3w

When a woman or girl is existing, we don’t want to be seen as sexual. And there’s a difference between being sexual and being seen as a sexual object. Like I said to your other comment, for us there isn’t a difference, we don’t get that luxury.

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 3w

It makes sense that you don’t want to be sexualized for just existing, when you aren’t even trying to be sexual. There’s a difference I think between being seen as being sexual and being seen as a sexual object. There’s former is sexualization and the latter is sexual objectification.

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 3w

It’s very reasonable to want to be sexual without being seen as a sex object, but I don’t think it’s reasonable or even sensical to want to be sexual in a manner involving other people without being seen as being sexual by those people. I’m confused why you say there isn’t a difference when your point is that there is a difference between being sexual and being sexually objectified, which you talk about in your previous sentence?

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Anonymous OP 2w

You should listen to “Feed Us Your Girls” by Lydia the Bard

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Anonymous #4 2w

What I’m saying is in daily life for us there is no difference. When I say there is a difference it’s because there is one hypothetically. The difference just doesn’t really exist for women. That’s what I am trying to say.

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Anonymous #6 2w

1000% agree with this, I think everyone who’s not sure of what we are talking about should listen to the somg

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 2w

Ahhhhh you know the song! She’s one of my favorite artists. Love The Woods

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Anonymous #6 2w

I adore her music! She’s so talented she sings about things that are very relevant.

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 2w

I gave myself a minor injury while listening to her music in the gym. Have to be careful with The Woods, gives me too much energy sometimes

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Anonymous #6 2w

Oh that’s so fair. I can’t listen to Don’t Cry For Your Daughters Eve without having too much energy. Can’t listen to it before class

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 2w

Yessss that one honestly has been so helpful. Like finally I have a framework to reflect on history and its effects on my family relationships

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Anonymous #6 2w

I actually have a whole playlist of feminine rage songs as I call it. Do you know Sofia isella? Or Paris Paloma?

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