
I feel you, I was diagnosed with ADHD in January at the age of 19 and I’m still struggling so bad at taking care of myself. But I found that 1) there’s a YouTube tutorial or Reddit post for almost everything, and most products come with some form of instructions 2) it’s okay to ask others for help (including in this group), anywhere from asking a stranger to help you reach a high shelf at the store or asking a friend to drag you out of bed when you’re sad. We’re humans, helping is what we do :)
Learning to take care of yourself is tricky and isn’t something that happens overnight. It’s also different for everyone. As a women I find men in good physical and emotional health attractive. If I were to date I need know that he’s person with dreams and goals in life rather than just wants someone someone to love them and that’s it there’s more to life than just romance and it’s important to have that. Hope that helps.