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cool_intellectual

 Why is men sexualizng women gross to u?
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Anonymous 15h

It’s dehumanizing

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Anonymous 15h

You aren’t seen as a person with hopes, dreams, and emotions anymore. You get treated like an object or decoration that’s sole purpose is to make money and please (usually) men. It doesn’t matter how cool, smart, or hardworking you are bc you just become a projection of someone’s fantasy- a doll for them to manipulate when you are just trying to exist. There’s usually undertones of violence. It’s predatory and targets young women and children, then discards them like trash after.

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Anonymous 12h

It doesn’t take a woman to understand why being sexualized and objectified is a problem🥀

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Anonymous 12h

If you’re a guy who can’t seem to understand why sexualizing IN GENERAL is an issue I fear you’re the problem and need some help. Like you’re actually dumb

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Anonymous 3h

If I don’t know you I don’t want you to be looking at my sex characteristics and fantasizing about me, internally or externally. I want you to look at me as you’d look at any new man you’re meeting, not as a potential sexual encounter. Cuz like I’m not looking at any guys that way, I have to fall for your personality first. Also like what if we become friends or coworkers in the long run? That just seems so awkward

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Anonymous 13h

I think sexualization is a normal thing. However if openly discussing sexualization makes the other person uncomfortable it’s not okay. It’s important to have open communication between the parties. Desire is a natural thing but at the expense of others is not. As a woman being sexualized does not usually upset me unless it’s unwanted and crudely done. Appreciating a body without speaking about it is one thing. Cat calling or saying crude things is not.

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Anonymous 14h

It depends on the context

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 15h

If someone talks abt my dick and how they can see it through my pants, I wouldn’t care.

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Anonymous replying to -> cool_intellectual 15h

Cool that’s a you thing. Being sexualized makes me uncomfortable

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 15h

I’d be ok if a woman grabbed my ass too, assuming she isn’t old

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Anonymous replying to -> cool_intellectual 15h

Again that’s a you thing. I’m not comfortable with anyone grabbing my ass without consent. I have been sexualized and harassed since I was very young

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 15h

Yeah, I probably wouldn’t be ok with it tbh. It’s hard for me to imagine

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 14h

That’s horrible.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 13h

Ok. I never cat call or say crude things to someone’s face

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Anonymous replying to -> cool_intellectual 13h

That’s good then. As long as you’re respectful then

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 13h

Yet I’m considered the same as the guys who do. I’m at least respectful to women where it matters, in the real world

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Anonymous replying to -> cool_intellectual 13h

I wouldn’t say you’re considered the same way. A lot of women are just defensive because they are scared and rightfully so. We have learned to protect ourselves because we are offen taken advantage of. I’ve been sexualized and harassed before it’s terrifying especially when you’re alone

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Anonymous replying to -> cool_intellectual 11h

I also wouldn’t mind

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Anonymous replying to -> cool_intellectual 10h

By reducing you to only your physical traits related to sex, you are condensed into a single aspect of yourself, a physical slice of your personality or personhood. It’s dehumanizing because it’s reductive and objectifying, even if you’re ok w it

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Anonymous replying to -> cool_intellectual 10h

but u not a woman so what are we talking abt…

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Anonymous replying to -> cool_intellectual 8h

Online matters too though. Online harassment is still harassment, and affects people in real life, even if its effects are not as readily apparent to the harasser.

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 7h

The difference I think is that in person makes a woman feel unsafe. Online, the guy isn’t doing shii

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Anonymous replying to -> cool_intellectual 7h

I mean to an extent, but online can still be threatening, and what’s said online can influence or reinforce certain mindsets and go on to have real life effects. For woman who experience harassment and misogyny in real life, things said online may not be immediate threats but can surface trauma from real life experiences. Also take for instance men active in online incel or manosphere communities who were subsequently inspired to commit misogynistic mass shootings or other crimes.

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 1h

Do I make anyone feel that way? Like threatening?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 30m

That’s true!

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